7-Year-Old Gets Plastic Surgery To Combat Bullies, Is It Ok?

Posted by April 14, 2011 7:49 pm

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For those of you who were home this morning to watch Good Morning America (lucky kids you are) they aired a piece on 7-year-old Samantha Shaw, who recently got plastic surgery in order to fix her ears, and thus get rid of the annoying schoolyard bullies.

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Shaw’s mother, Cammie, flew her to New York from South Dakota for a surgery that pinned back both of her ears and fixed a fold on the right ear. Samantha appears to be completely unphased by the whole thing, but the folks on ABC were a bit skeptical.

There are of course a lot of issues that come up when you discuss anything about children and plastic surgery, and this story is no different. But, considering Samantha is 7 and she most likely will barely remember the procedure (and will probably have a much easier time in school, sadly) her mother may just have made the right choice.

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The main argument against these procedures at such a young age is that everyone should have the choice to embrace their flaws rather than have their parents fix them for them. But is it very likely that Samantha is going to wish that her ears stuck out when she was older? We doubt it.

What do you think? Do you think Samantha’s mom is in the wrong?

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  1. Rose Cora Perry says:

    No matter how flawless, accomplished, or beautiful one appears to be as a person (inside and out), people will still find reasons to cut you down. In fact, one could argue that the MORE you’ve got going for you, the MORE you will actually end up becoming a target of cruelty purely based on the fact that it seems people are increasingly insecure these days and instead of being mature about their feelings acknowledging that they have areas to work on, they’d rather lash out with jealousy.

    We can protect those we love all we want, but at some point they will have to realize the world is a very hard place. I was an ugly kid. I wore baggy jeans and overalls, didn’t always brush my hair, took pleasure in jumping in mud puddles, even got mistaken for a boy on several occasions – BUT I was a KID. Worrying about superficial things such as being a beauty queen at seven should NOT ever become a “normal” concern. Not only did this mother fail in teaching her child that there are more important things in life than her aesthetic appeal, but by going public with her daughter’s insecurities, I’d put money on it that MORE bullying NOT less will result as a consequence.

  2. Corinne Edelstein says:

    Samantha’s mom did a great thing for her daughters appearance. Kudo’s to her. Colbert’s ears didn’t stop him from being successful but it’s different with women. A woman with a flaw like that probably wouldn’t have been hired.

  3. Best of Beehive says:

    It’s sad that she was forced to get plastic surgery because of someone else. I hope she is happier now, but I don’t blame her. It’s not like she had anything major done, but she might regret it in the future.

  4. Leigh says:

    My mom had my ears pinned back – also at the age of seven. I’m so grateful for this as children are unbelievably cruel. Not having people call me ‘bat ears’ anymore made life a lot easier. Reckon if you can fix something you don’t like about yourself, you should go for it. Its the same thing as putting your kids in braces.

    And to those who say it would’ve made me stronger to live with it – don’t you worry, I have plenty of other not so zappable things wrong with me to teach me all about self-acceptance.

    Thanks mom!

    x x x

  5. bubbles says:

    I think the plastic surgery for the fold is fine. I wouldn’t want one of my ears folded, and neither would anyone else. Those who keep saying to embrace your flaws without being in that situation would just be lying to themselves. As for the sticking out part, that is something that people can come to live with and love, perhaps the mother could have waited 10 years to ask her daughter if she would like her ears pinned.

  6. Dee803 says:

    kids or kids….what if tomorrow they pick on her noise or her eyes…people will always find something to point out you…just teach your kids to love themself no matter what!

  7. kristen says:

    You never know she could been really pretty when she became a teenager but I so understand I mean I wouldnt want her to go to school everyday knowing people would not like her because of her looks thas` t sad! perfection is almost everything I mean it also comes` from the inside but being honest whats` 1 thing you see when you see someone its` there looks! I hope she can be happy and Find tons of friends ! good ones. oh ps she is pretty but I mean her ears could of straightend out.

  8. Yvie says:

    WHAT? Ok, I understand the mother did this to help her daughter fit it… But its asinine to think that having BIG EARS will prevent you from getting a job! What century are we living in? I personally have ears that stick out and I have never been passed up for a job because of it… (I say to #### with who ever would anyway) My ears haven’t hindered me in anyway. Sure there have been comments here and there growing up but I’ve developed a strong backbone because of it. I’m confident with my looks. I take offense to the comments some people are making. You assume that because she is different she is doomed to a life of misery? How small minded. Good luck to the person living in your superficial world.

  9. Kat says:

    This woman should be thrown in jail for child abuse!! MY GOD at seven years old she is still changing and growing, she will not look the same in 5 years, she could grow her hair longer but to send your child into surgery and teach her that it can “fix” problems is wrong!! They fixed her ears of which there was NOTHING WRONG WITH them. Whats next..her breasts because some little girl makes fun or teases because they’re not a certain size? How about her labia…you know when they go through puberty….her nose, eyes …it will never end….kids are mean. She is not in school forever, why not change schools or areas? What about home schooling?? Surgery is drastic and there was nothing wrong with her, she was a beautiful little girl before surgery. ANY of you sick women who think this is a good thing that her mom did are probably more insecure then confident in your own body….I’m horrified they even allowed this surgery, its sick.

  10. Ruth says:

    I think it was a good idea, when she gets older she probably would have done it for herself. Her parents were smart enough to make life a little easier for her, kids can be cruel & so can adults !

  11. Jessie says:

    I could never put my child through unnecessary surgery. What if something went wrong? This is the type of decision I think she should have let her child make for herself as an adult.

  12. Rose says:

    I had this done when I was 8 years old – not the fold, just the pinning. The post-surgical experience was horrible, no one explained the swelling, bruising, and pain – omg the pain, i’ll never forget that. i woke up screaming from it, i remember that day crystal clear. waiting on the surgical table while they measured my ears, giving me the needle before they knocked me out. i was so scared that i thought they were cutting when they were actually measuring…
    i’ve thought about whether or not i’d have this done to my own children, andi honeslty don’t know. i dont remember the decision process but i do remember the procedure…
    i think 7 or 8 is too young, we’re not done growing at this stage…
    i guess the surgery alone is ok so long as the parents are reasonable, my own mother was insistent on covering my ears with my hair and refusing to buy my class pictures if i tuckd it back, they always reminded her of her exhusband’s ears… this is just my scenario, but i think with the right parental support it would be fine, just need to explain things very clearly and ensure they have good self esteem before and after… i still have this strange photophobia from that whole ear debacle… i hope they know what they’re doing and that this is something the child wants and not something they (the parents) want.

  13. anonanon says:

    I don’t know if the fold in her ear effected the quality of her hearing. If anything effected my child’s ability to hear well I would do whatever it takes to give my child the ability. As for just looks…. it’s hard for me to say. Putting a child through surgery is a tough call. And I would be inclined to let them make a decision when they were an adult. As an adult you come to love some things about yourself that you don’t grow into as a child. Ears sticking out isn’t ugly to me. Now if it were impairing function, again I wouldn’t allow this to impare any functions. But that aside I’d be worried about making a permanent decision my child might later regret. I don’t see anything wrong with making these decisions when we get older, but sometimes children don’t understand that getting their peer’s praise isn’t that important in the long run. Look at Heidi Montag, she couldn’t accept herself the way she was- I think she was beautiful, but she kept having elective surgeries and now she can’t take it back. She’ll never look the same. It’s sad, it’s better to wait and be sure than to rush into things and be sorry later. I doubt this kid will regret it, but the battle of learning to love and accept yourself is a tough one but not a bad one.

  14. withani24 says:

    Ear pinning is far more common in children and adolescents than you may know(I manage a Plastic Surgery practice). This little girl’s story was most likely publicized to bring attention AND acceptance to parents and young people alike that it is as OK to change something that you don’t like about your appearance as it is to accept it. Judging, whether it’s about your flaw or how you fix it, is still judging. If you ever had braces, got contact lenses, or even a perm for your hair in your school years, I do hope that you take a minute to think before you criticize this mother & child for being so candid!

  15. Claudette Desforges says:

    it’s sad to know that a child at her age would have to go threw anything like that for thous reasons in the first place because as you grow and develope your appearance changes,and if i as Mother ever had to choose to put any child threw that it would have to say NO.like common it’s a child,all that Mother did was let that little girl probable think to herself that there was something wrong herself as she grows up and leave her wondering is there’s anything ells wrong with her as she gets older.And to that little girl i say she is a beautiful little girl.

  16. Raven says:

    Bullying in school is such a big issue. There seems to be no end to the cruelty that kids can inflict on other kids. The truth is, the bullies are the ones with the problem and they take it out on the sweet and non-agressive kids. Kudos to the mom for correcting the physical problem. Of course changing her looks won’t change the outlook of the bully, but at least she can now stop worrying about her physical appearance.

  17. Joanne Obergfell says:

    It’s unfortunate, but children can be so brutal to one another and we have all heard stories about how bullying has affected peoples lives, even as adults. I’m not an advocate for 7 year olds having plastic surgery, but if it helps her have a better childhood, than why not. No child deserves to be tormented though her entire childhood. Its so sad!!

  18. krista.franklin says:

    unfortunately we are living in a society where children are killing themselves because of bullying. Schools are getting worse, no way to control what happens down the hall, at lunch, in the restrooms, all the places monitoring can’t happen. Parents know their children and most make the best decision for them. If indeed, there was a flaw that could be corrected without demage to the child, I believe mom made the best decision

  19. Holly says:

    I think her mother did the right thing. I think it’s funny how *Rosa Cora Perry* mentions “worrying about superficial things such as being a beauty queen at seven..” I’m not really sure how we went from a simple pinning of the ears, to making her daughter become this superficial beauty queen? Kids are cruel, and are vulnerable at that age. Also, I highly doubt that the mother would have done it had her daughter not said anything about it, or DIDN’T want to do it. It’s one less thing she has to worry about so she CAN worry about what REALLY matters, aka school and being a good person. Often the flaw (big ears, extra weight etc), causes them to miss out on things and meeting new people because of their insecurities. This can possibly increase the chances of a superficial personality as they get older, because they’re too focused on what they look like and not on bettering themselves intellectually and emotionally. Just sayin’.

  20. fauxcats says:

    It’s hard to tell based on the picture what the degree of (potential) deformity was with respect to the fold on the right ear. If this did affect her hearing, then I can understand the procedure, in part. However, as far as ears that stick out go – I think it’s ridiculous. I was teased all through school about my sticking-out ears. But the experience taught me a lot about what makes up a bully (insecurity) and about compassion for others who are being bullied. I was always kind. Despite my ears, I was also wickedly smart, pretty and very popular within my own circle of nice kids. Plus, it turned out that I’m gifted in music because I have perfect pitch – in part thanks to the angle of my ears and how they pick up sound. Finally, plastic surgery is SURGERY: the risks include death. That’s not true of perms and braces. I would never subject a 7 year old to this. It’s a choice that should be made by the patient once they can make adult decisions and consider all of the possible consequences. I could change my ears now, decades later, but I love them! They have a cute elfin quality and my hearing can’t be beat.

  21. Annie says:

    This is so sad

  22. Anonymous says:

    Hi all, This is indeed upsetting to see that kids are bullying her because of her ears. It isn’t surprising though. I am actually 24 years old and all my life i’ve been bullied for my ears and made fun of. my parents never went ahead and had me get plastic surgery to correct this. My life growing up has definately not been an easy one. it’s made me have to drop out of school because the bullying were soo incredibly bad that it got to where people were actually LITERALLY pushing me around in school. I got shoved and pushed .. you name it. It was not a good experience. Im very much traumatized from this. I am happy this young girl wont remember this being that she’s soo young. I cant say i feel sorry for myself but infact i feel traumatized by the events that have occurred in my life. I wish i had enuff money to actually get them fixed.

  23. Sinead says:

    This is the “done thing” in England at least it was, when my dad was a kid he got it done, so did loads and loads of his friends at school. It was a free proceeder. With him one of the stitches came off on the left side so one ear sticks out and the other doesn’t (fairly common) I don’t see the big deal I have seen it done loads of times!

  24. Nicole Stanikowski says:

    My mother actually had me go through the exact same procedure when I was 7 as well. I even went in a second time to make sure my ears would never budge.
    I have never resented my mother or felt regretful for losing my dumbo ears. I have fairly thin hair and my ears were essentially perpendicular to my head, and seeing how relentlessly bullied my peers were, I’m glad my parents gave me that. I completely agree with Cammie’s decision and feel there’s nothing wrong with doing something like this, that you feel is right for your child. This type of surgery is really miles away from the likes of face lifts and botox, so I see no comparison.

  25. Linda says:

    Of course her parents were right in getting this fixed. If she had a cleft pallet or club food it woud be fixed. I had a son born with a deformed arm and the doctors performed surgery when he was seven months old to straighten it out to be more usable as he grew up. Thank heavens we have talented doctors to try to fix these type of problems.

  26. Lya Twedo says:


  27. ashley says:

    I was in 8th grade, 14 years old, when I tried to commit suicide due to bullies. No matter what I tried to do to fit in they pursued because I didn’t look like them, I wasn’t pretty like them and after so many days, and weeks, and months of being tripped, things thrown at me, books being knocked out of my hands, and slurs being yelled through the hallways I reached my breaking point. Sadly this seems to be a reality for several children and if it helps her from going through what I went through I for one am fully supportive.

  28. Misti Hunt says:

    I do not advocate plastic surgery on children. However, I believe Samantha’s Mom did what she thought was best for her daughter and I stand behind her decision. In no way does this have anything to do with being a beauty queen. This Mother in no way failed her child! To me the problem is with the parents who do not TEACH their children kindness and compassion.

  29. Really! says:

    My daughter has ears like shells that stand out from her head. When she was in second grade the boys made fun of them. As she grew the rest of her head became larger, & her features became more in balance. No one makes fun of them now. They are proportional & adorable. Her boyfriend loves them! Surgery under anesthetics on a child this young carries a much higher risk of death , infection, further deformity, & failure of the operation to correct the original problem adequately. It may also have been unnecessary, just like my daughter’s ears. We handled our bullies by having my daughter tell them loudly (in front of everyone) that she knew the reason they were teasing her was because they all had a “crush” on her! Stopped them dead in their tracks, & they stopped teasing her for anything. We found out the real reason the bullies were targeting my daughter was because they were jealous of her 190 IQ. It made them feel inferior. Just watch; these bullies are going to start teasing her about her nose next, since I notice it is currently disproportionately large for her face too. This mom caved in to the bullies, & taught her daughter she must change her appearance to appease the bullies. I guess this girl is going to try to please the bullies for the rest of her school years, I feel so sad for her. All children go through several stages where the parts do not match. She is bound to be ridiculed again. What surgery will her parents put her through next?

  30. Randy says:

    When I was a kid, I was always taught that a bully was nothing but a coward, and if you stand up to them they will back down. It’s amazing what happens when you area kid and you kick a bully’s ###. Nowadays the kids turn #####, go on ritalin and need counseling and when they grow up, they can’t handle life.

  31. Grace says:

    Way to go mom… you made a great decision by protecting your daughter in the best way you knew how since you are not able to go to school and shield your daughter from bullies.. I would have done it without hesitation….

  32. C. Thomas says:

    Do I think this girls mother made the wrong choice. Noooooooo. are you kidding? As someone who was teased constantly for my lips, height, intellencence, and more while I was in school, I can speak first had about what it was like to be teased. The pain of it stuck with me for years. Way to go Mom. By the way, by oldest daughter was born with one of her ears flapping down. Within 1 hour of birth I asked about surgery. It went into place on its own. Had it not? Before my daughter entered school it would have been taken care of. Again good job mom.

  33. CariD says:

    I was born (almost half a century ago) with one pointed ear. The doctor told my parents it would correct itself, but it didn’t. I really didn’t think anything about it until I was in the first grade and one boy repeatedly called me Mr. Spock. At that point I don’t think I knew about “plastic” surgery, but I did start to save change to “have them fixed.” As I got older and became busy and involved in activities, I forgot about my “fund” and my ear in general. It really became a non-issue because it stopped bothering me. I guess I figured there are more important things in the world than a pointed ear. That said, I think if the parents want to do it, and can afford it, it’s their choice, but I would hope that they instill their child with a strong sense of self-esteem so that she doesn’t think she needs to “correct” every little flaw that she finds as she grows and matures.

  34. cbw says:

    Supporting plastic surgery on kids depends on what is being done. This procedure is just fine. My family all has ears that stick out like Dumbo. I had my ears pinned back at age 15. Wish my parents had done it years earlier. Kudos to this family for just getting it out of the way.

  35. Kary says:

    Clearly the people who disagree with this don’t have kids with flaws. i did the same thing to my kid because she was getting picked on & didn’t want to go to school. This is more of a story about how the school system is messed up and they have no power to discipline the bad kids. Do we want to spend the extra money to make our kids perfect? No. Its the fact that she was being targeted for her ears, yes at 7!! Adults don’t really understand what these kids go thru these days. It’s a tough world out there and if this small procedure brought her happiness, then good for this family.

  36. Cathy says:

    This was done to a little boy when I was a teacher’s aide back in the early 70’s. Back then I thought the mother was over reacting but I guess in the long run it was a good thing. (the little boy was about 5 or 6 years old he was in the 1st grade) This must happen more then we know.

  37. C says:

    I think it’s ok since I was subjected to her same type of bullying, harassing, and abuse for the same reason; from when I was in Kindergarten to now as an adult. You would think people “grow up” and not act like that, but it’s apparent they don’t. It doesn’t bother me as much now, but I wish I could’ve done the same thing then. I always had a complex, and now I just brush it aside.

  38. Angela says:

    I don’t see it as being any different than getting your kids braces, to cosmetically fix their crooked teeth. I think the mother was totally in the right here!

  39. Amom says:

    No, it’s not ok. She basically told her daughter that the bullies were right.
    And when the kid grows up and has kids, they’ll look like mom should, and want plastic surgery. If everyone in the world looked the same, we’d all be bored stupid.

  40. SushiSushi says:

    I can understand wanting to get this done to help your child. My brother-in-law had his ears pinned back as a baby. He and my sister had a son who has very large ears at 11 yrs old. He’s never been made fun of until this year, starting middle school. Now he’s being teased everyday by a group of kids. On the other hand, one of my bffs has a daughter with extremely big ears, probably the largest I’ve ever seen. Her ears make her so uniquely beautiful and I swear the girl could model. Seeing both sides of it first hand, I believe that it is the family’s choice and we shouldn’t judge.

  41. Smarter than you says:

    Congrats to the women saying they have flaws and worked through them – and how was that life? Aw, you grew a bigger backbone? GOOD FOR YOU. Growing through things isn’t for everyone and saving the child from being possibly emotionally scarred for life is OBVIOUSLY the better choice. The child is 7 – you morons continue to say OHNOES SHES GONNA FIX EVERY FLAW WITH PLASTIC SURGERY. Shut the #### up, are you retarded? Why even call it plastic surgery to the child? Operation. Etc. If ANYTHING, the parents that are whining about this are the ones hurting it and bringing it out into the open to embarrass those who have done this. What if you were born with an extra foot coming out of your face? Or a nose coming out of your stomach? You going to get that removed, or say it’s beautiful and only fool yourself. Like Red Foreman says.. You’re a bunch of dumbasses.

  42. Bob says:

    Bravo to her mother for doing the right thing. Having grown up with larger than normal ears for my age, it was a miserable childhood to experience. It affects you entire self-esteem the rest of your life. Lucky for me my head got bigger, but it took a long long time for that to happen, really after I was in college.

  43. Kris B says:

    Oh how I wish they woudl have had this option 35 years ago. I am now 40 and to this day have never worn a pony tail or had a short hair cut. I would love to have my ears done.

  44. Kate says:

    This is corrective surgery, not cosmetic surgery. What a misleading headline. I would absolutely have my child’s eaers fixed if necessary and I can’t see any negative consequences to this little girl. I sure would have wanted my parents to do this for me if I had that challenge. Everyone criticising the mom should think about how they would feel if their child was unhappy about something as easy to fix as this.

  45. ML says:

    I am not bothered at all by the parents’ choice have her ears fixed. Any trauma this surgery might entail is small potatoes compared to the emotional scars from being tormented. If you disagree,
    you have never been bullied.

  46. CJ says:

    My mother had her ears pinned back when she was 5 or 6. She told me about it when i was little and was being picked on for my ear size as well. I didnt feel the need to have surgery to correct them and i am glad i didnt now that i have grown into them. But i think it was something that worked well for my mom. She wasnt taunted for her ears after having surgery and thats what mattered the most to her at that time.

  47. Denise says:

    One of the comments is that the mother be thrown in jail for child abuse. Really?!? What about all the kids that have their cleft lips fixed? Without having a before picture of this little girls ears I don’t think it’s right to judge, they really could have stuck out a lot, the fold for sure is something that 7 year olds will pick out and then pick on. No one is perfect, most are able to learn to live with imperfections, but when they are drastic, when they end up being detrimental to the emotional health of the child? How can that be constructive surgery to make something appear more like normal considered child abuse? It’s not making things bigger or better, it’s making them look what fits into our society as normal.

  48. kbryan says:

    Children are cruel and people get picked on but at some point that child is going to think she can physically alter everything she doesn’t like about herself. I think she should have given her the tools to be strong, brave and love herself. Everyone doesn’t like something about themselves but as an adult I grew into my own skin. I wouldn’t change a thing about myself – we should be giving young girls the tools to feel powerful and in control, not weakend by men and feeling the pressure of society to alter their looks. How ridiculous. I am by no means attractive but I am very successful at what I do, I’m not someone who slept to the top and I work in a male dominated industry. I just had a lot of love and support to realize that looks definitely don’t judge who I am.

  49. K says:

    Ear pinning is nothing new. Parents have been having it done on children younger than 7 for decades, along with bleaching port wine stains, removing moles, cosmetic dental procedures, etc. Some are worth while, some not. When I was 14, my mother insisted I get porcelain veneers on my front teeth to fix a gap. For the rest of my life I will have to get them replaced every 3-4 years (part of the procedure was “shaving down” my natural tooth structure) because of her vanity (ouch, bitter much?). I’d rather have the gap.

    Any cosmetic procedure that has to be kept up for the rest of your life is probably not worth it at such a young age. As for a one-time procedure like ear pinning or mole removal, that seems like less of a big deal.

  50. Aubrie says:

    My question would be why this wasn’t done sooner? I had ears that stuck out when I was born, and flipped forward somewhat…. They were unsightly, but the doctor told my mother that they could be taped into place right away, and that the tissue was still soft, pliable and growing enough that it would only be for a short time…. So my ears were taped to my head in the proper place. Two months later, the tape was removed and I never again had problems with them…. Thank GOD my mother and Doctor were smart enough to do this for me so I didn’t have to suffer what this little girl did at school…. I commend the mother for doing this…. Just wish she had done it sooner, when it would have been easier.

  51. They Called Me Sputnik says:

    I wish my parents had done this for me. I went through years of bullying as long as I could remember until I went away to college. Once I got the chance to start from scratch and no one knew me, I started supergluing my ears to my head. I did this for years and the result was terrible scabbing behind my ears and several unplanned accidents with a rogue ear popping out.

    Long story short, my mother passed away while I was in college and I used my inheritance to have this same procedure as this little girl performed. It totally changed my life. Gave me more confidence, I got better grades, dating improved, I went on to a grad school that I never would have imagined I could have gotten into, and I got the job of my dreams.

    Obviously, I can’t thank my new ears for all of this, but even if it only helped a little, it was totally worth it. WAY TO GO, MOM!

  52. John says:

    Until we grow up and stop judging and bullying people based on appearance, sometimes it might be necessary to change to fit the norm rather than try to move to norm to be more inclusive. I was bullied based on appearance, and it has stayed with me for 50 years. I know…”get a grip!”…but it’s there nonetheless.

  53. Amanda says:

    How many kids wearing braces need them for medical reasons? It’s purely cosmetic. This story seems like the same sort of thing to me.

  54. cynthia says:

    I was born with hemangiomas and was a forceped delivery. Which means I have facial scars, I have a slighly misaligned jaw and some nerve damage on one side of my face, Three plastic surgeries at 16 didn’t fix it. I am now married (happily) with six kids. This stuff happens for a reason, and it’s up to the parents to make the kid comfortable enough in their skin to where they don’t feel suicidal. I grew up being called crooked,shweka and every other evil name. My kids now, they are very accepting of people with disabilities and three of them volunteer for disabled children. It’s about integrity, not beauty….Would I go back and change my happenstance at birth, I don’t think so.

  55. Jody Kesil says:

    I saw the “before” picture on GMA- I don’t think anyone would want their ears to stick out like that. It seemed to me like a slight birth defect that was rightly fixed.

  56. Becky says:

    My brother had his ears pinned back when he was 5. My parents did it so he would avoid being bullied anymore than he already had. He used to come home from preschool crying and often times would throw temper tantrums and pretend to be sick so he wouldn’t have to go back. He was also going to a child psychologist to help deal with the bullying as well and it wasn’t a decision they made over night but for him it was the right decision.

  57. Bob says:

    Should this even be a debate? STOP BABYING THESE CHILDREN. No wonder we’re in a world full of idiot parents, they were babied themselves. Children are going to make fun of each other, if not for their ears then their hair, their economic status, anything. Wow, what a great value we’re teaching children today, “don’t be happy with who you are, get surgery and become fake!” instead of “be happy with who you are.” They should put this kid into foster care and arrest the parents for child cruelty.

  58. Bob says:

    Wait, i have to leave another comment, i grew up with a scar on my lip from getting stitches when i was a kid, traumatized me for life, all the bullying i got…”hey there scarface” or “let me open a beer with your lip”…..it wasn’t easy, i had it so rough…..

    That was sarcasm. Grow up where you have to run home b/c otherwise you’ll get robbed or worse. Look over your shoulder all the time for some nut who may or may not be coming after you. Please, most of you need to grow up and find that being called a name isn’t the worst thing in the world, have something horrible happen to you that is actually horrible and not just about your “feelings” and we can talk. Go ask some of the kids who’s parents were murdered on Sept 11th if they think bullying over names is a bad thing. I’m sure they’ll spit in your face. And rightfully so.

  59. Alycia says:

    Thanks Toddlers and Tiaras! I don’t think ear pinning should be considered “plastic surgery” it’s more corrective, and that child will not suffer the name calling she otherwise will receive! Now she can wear her hair up, and not hide her ears!

  60. LEMomma says:

    Well, it’s a personal choice but the logic is flawed. I had a nice ears as a child and still got bullied. Bullies don’t need a real excuse to make your life miserable. Mine came up with a complete work of fiction in order to torment me for years.

  61. Hanalee says:

    Funny her mother is getting praises and sympathy from others merely because she wants to “save her daughter from embarrassment, harassment, and bullying.” She must have felt incredibly horrified at the fact that her own genetics that are passed down to her daughter, has the chance to “ruin” her life. It’s also something that should be kept in the dark, however it’s now publicized. So, now that her 7-year-old daughter no longer will be mocked by the size of her ears, but by the actions of her mother. hmmmm…

  62. Lisa Leonard says:

    I believe this girl’s mother did the right thing. Who in their right mind would think this girl would ever learn to embrace a flaw that made her a target for bullies? She would have went through school being picked on which would have caused her self-esteem to sink further and further until she felt horrible about herself. She would have hated school because that is where she would have continued to be targeted and this would have interfered with her learning. She also may have become depressed. This surgery is far different from breast enlargement and so on.

  63. Tina Carpenter says:

    I think this girl was old enough to be part of the decision. I applaud the parents for allowing her to have the surgery. I didn’t have any ear problems, but had very very large, heavy breasts. I had a breast reduction when I was in my 30’s, it was a decision that I thought about for 2 yrs. I worked on a plastic surgery floor, so I knew exactly what to expect. I only wish I had had it done years sooner. I started breast development at age 8 and I was teased relentlessly. As a teen and an adult I couldn’t have an eye to eye conversation with any male, they stared at my chest. I was very self conscious. Not only did the reduction help my self esteem, it helped my back pain somewhat and the yeast problem under the breasts disappeared entirely.

  64. Meow says:

    Kids with flaws also suffer fron low self-esteem. Enough of this embrace your flaws because God made you this way hippie cr@p. When I went to school, we had a boy with pionted ears, Everyone called him “Spock.” I’ll bet that he wished that HIS parents cared enough to get plastic surgery for his ears. Then we had a girl with a big mole on her face. She had a nervous breakdown and ended up in an institution. Kids who have birth defects, scars or moles should have them corrected.

  65. amuse says:

    At first thought, I thought “That’s OK”, but it IS a slippery slope. Fat kids are almost always bullied to the utmost degree. Is it OK to give an 8yr old a gastric bypass surgery?

  66. Laura says:

    Please people, if you are going to comment, please…I reiterate…please learn to spell and use proper grammar. I tried to read the comments, but it is almost intolerable when everything is misspelled and there are no punctuation marks…As for the little girl, who of us would have wanted to be called Dumbo whilst trying to grow up? I find this less offensive than circumcising a baby which is horrendous, or piercing a baby’s ears…also mutilative.

  67. Bowtieangel says:

    It is very sad that this poor little girl has to have surgery because other kids are cruel. Instead of better looks, this world needs better parents. The parents of the children that were or would make fun of her for her ears should be arrested for harrassment by proxy. If they can’t teach their children to be kind and accepting, they don’t need to be parents. Children were rude when I was growing up, but in recent years they have become just outrageously cruel and have no accountability for their actions…. what is this world coming to?

  68. Amy says:

    I think for something small like that it is not a big deal. I remember having terrible acne from fifth grade until my Senior year of high school. My dad wouldn’t do anything about it because he wanted to teach me to accept my flaws. It didn’t work. I am smart enough not to judge other people by their flaws but I spent most of my life hiding my face: embarassed. As an adult I still have a hard time looking people in the face and a small fix could have changed a lot for me. I’m sure this girl isn’t so dumb that she will never accept any of her flaws or that she will judge others by theirs.

  69. Riphly George says:

    I’m glad that the parents had both the foresight and the funds to promote their daughter’s well-being.
    Could this be considered worse tan putting braces in a child’s mouth for a few years? I think not.

  70. Riphly George says:

    I’m glad that the parents had both the foresight and the funds to promote their daughter’s well-being.
    Could this be considered worse than putting braces in a child’s mouth for a few years? I think not.

  71. Bean-a-Mhalairt says:

    I’ve been the victim of bullies for most of my life. I grew up being beaten up for being the tall skinny effeminate boy/girl thing that no one understood. I lived a life filled with fear, violence and regret. Just a little bit of plastic surgery would have saved me from many years of conflict. That part of my life is still ahead of me.

    Samantha’s mother made a difficult decision. I applaud her strength and courage. Not many people have that kind of courage in them these days. Cammie made a decision to fight back, by removing the reason for the conflict. Good for Her! Good for them both. Until you’ve experienced being the victim of bullies; getting beaten just for being different, you simply don’t understand. As far as I am concerned, if you don’t understand, you have nothing to say.

  72. GAIL SNAIL says:

    I think the headline is a bit misleading. Yes. Pining back her ears IS plastic surgery. But I think people will think of more drastic plastic surgery when they read the headlines.

    I don’t think Samantha’s mother is wrong in her actions. I wish Samantha the best of luck and hope this shuts up the bullies.

  73. peggy says:

    OMGosh what is wrong with it? And why make such a big deal about it. Should my mother have left me with wisdom teeth that made it hard to open my mouth and chew? I mean I was teased about that. I could still eat & talk, so if it was up to some people I would have been left to stand out & be picked when a simple surgical procedure could avoid it? Next someone will say, oh it’s only a tiny cleft palate, just leave the kid alone. Good on you mom, if my ears had of stuck out and been over I would want someone to spare me the pain too.

  74. Ex-Teacher says:

    Hurray for the mom for making her child’s life bearable early on. Every few years I had an unhappy miserable student who had “Dumbo” ears. I’m not talking about the easily hidden type of ear, but the stick right out and impossible to ignore type. I was able to stop the torment in my classroom, but there was nothing I could do for them the rest of the day or on the school bus. The sooner the ears are fixed the happier the child. Those of you who disagree with the surgery have never been subjected to the relentless teasing of older students who have knack for finding physical flaws and exploiting insecurities. With the advent of the Internet, the teasing continues after the school day. After my students had their ears pinned back in junior high, every single one exhibited better posture and happier dispositions, no longer trying to blend into the hallway walls. I guarantee you not one of them regretted the surgery and wanted to go back to being “unique”.

  75. Carole Thomas says:

    What is the difference between braces for your buck teeth and getting your ears fixed? Not one thing, just one has the 2 dirty words attached “plastic surgery”.

  76. Bonnie says:

    My Mother taped my ears back from the time I was born tell I started school. If we had had the money to have my ears fixed I know she would have gotten them done. It would have saved me the humiliation and pain,( lots of ear pulling),and name calling. I know that Samantha’s mother did what was the best for her child.

  77. Bonita Earls says:

    Try being called bucky, rabbit and being laughed at every time you smile becaseu your teeth stuck out. Even after thousands of dollars in braces, it was not until I joined the Navy at 23 years old was my overbite fixed and I was able to smile comfortably….and often. My entire demeanor changed. For those of you who condemn the mother – there is a difference between a flaw and a defect that is so obvious no one would ever miss it. I am quite sure this childs ears were more than a little prominent if the mother went to these lengths. And yes, people are very cruel and being able to embrace your flaws is great but if something can be easily fixed ot prevent further ridicule or hardship – why pass over the chance to fix it.

  78. Sarah says:

    Take it from someone who was born with a birth defect. All a kid wants to do is fit in and not be teased because of something beyond her control. Yes, kids can be teased for many reasons, but there is a lack of confidence that goes along with having a birth defect. You always feel people staring and it gets worse as you get older and you’re more aware. All the “embracing your differences” in the world can’t overcome the stares. My parents fixed my problem at a young age via plastic surgery and nobody would know looking at me now. Please don’t judge this family. If you haven’t been in the situation, then you just don’t know what it feels like.

  79. ron says:

    I know a few girls that had this done when I was younger, they just had too much cartilage behind their ears. It’s not a serious operation, her ears probably looked like a Monkey’s before.

  80. jw says:

    Great decision, mom. Any physical pain from the surgery lasts just a little while; emotional pain and damaged self-esteem because of constant bullying could last a lifetime. Ears that stick out aren’t a feature anyone is going to grow to love or accept about themselves. No one would be here spewing hatred against this mom if the headline was “7 Year-Old Gets Braces for Buckteeth”. Why is it OK for us as a society to say, ‘This is an acceptable feature to change, but that other thing isn’t.’ Actually I thought ear pinning was quite a common thing to have done, so I’m not sure why this case made the news. At the end of the day, it was the family’s decision to make. I wouldn’t have wanted it publicized if it were my child going through it, but to each his own.

  81. MonkeyEars says:

    I have ears that stick out and if I had the option as a child to have them pinned back, I would have jumped at the chance. Kids can be cruel, I can’t tell you how many times I heard names like ” Mr. Potato Head, Satellite, Ape boy, Big Ears…” And now I have passed those ears on to my daughter. She is 9 and came home in tears recently because of teasing at school because someone said she had Monkey ears. I applaud this mom and her helping her child avoid years of teasing and verbal abuse. I am a successful employed adult now but I still find that occasionally I think about what my ears look like to others. I never had them fixed but I wish I had. My wife and I have talked about it and if my daughter recieves the teasing that I did, we will present her with the option to have them made less noticeable.

  82. MonkeyEars says:

    I have ears that stick out and if I had the option as a child to have them pinned back, I would have jumped at the chance. Kids can be cruel, I can’t tell you how many times I heard names like ” Mr. Potato Head, Satellite, Ape boy, Big Ears…” And now I have passed those ears on to my daughter. She is 9 and came home in tears recently because of teasing at school because someone said she had Monkey ears. I applaud this mom and her helping her child avoid years of teasing and verbal abuse. I am a successful employed adult now but I still find that occasionally I think about what my ears look like to others. I never had them fixed but I wish I had. My wife and I have talked about it and if my daughter recieves the teasing that I did, we will present her with the option to have them made less noticeable.

  83. Jodi says:

    I had my 4yr old’s ears “pinned back” surgically before she started school. She is now 26 and has been thanking me for years for my fore site. I never thought for one second that there was anything wrong with seeking out a Plastic surgeon.

  84. niceluckylady says:

    Whats the difference in doing this and getting your kids braces for their teeth.

  85. oswaldo says:

    I’ve worked with children in a primary school for over 25 years. I say that the mother was absolutely correct.

  86. Bob says:

    How easily we as a culture deceive ourselves! True confidence and affirmation of our worth as persons comes from a place deep inside us . . . far deeper than our ears. Parents who are doing a great job with their children understand that teaching their children to recognize the good in themselves is what makes healthy children and leads them to becoming healthy adults. Focusing on what is “wrong” with one’s children only leads them to see themselves as flawed. Ear fix or no ear fix, if parents get too occupied with fixing their kids (especially when they are not broken), the kids will grow up believing they are broken. What a shame!

  87. stupidbtches says:

    For all you dumb biiitches in here you all must be some ugly fcks to support plastic surgery. Unfit mothers, if this is the way you think don’t have babies you fcking idiots

  88. Mauieast says:

    It’s wrong to suggest that this kind of plastic surgery, to correct an actual physical problem, is a vanity issue, If the little girl had been born with a cleft palate and it was repaired with plastic surgery, would that be vanity also? Ears that protrude too much actually cause discomfort when a person sleeps on their side. I remember when Sharon Stone received criticism because her son received Botox injections in his feet to help with excessively overactive sweat glands. The press made it seem that this medical treatment was done for some silly frivolous reason. Botox is used for many valid reasons, not just to fill wrinkles. Making a big deal of this little girl’s surgery is unnecessary and mean-spirited.

  89. Kelly M says:

    Bob, pump the breaks. Arrested and put in jail ? Are you insane? Clearly you feel so strongly about this little girls ears, you think the law should get involved. Worry about yourself and your own family before getting fired up on a strangers family and their choices for their own child.

  90. KATIE says:

    Fauxcate stated tyat you can die from surgery, but not from having braces or a perm WRONG! When a child is given a perm for the first time, the parent(s) have no clue as to whether or not the child is allergic to any of the perm solutions. If the child IS allergic to any of them, he/she COULD die! I am VERY sensitive to chemicals and have chosen NOT to have perms for just that reason. Allergists cannot test for chemical sensitivities because there are too many chemicals out there. And if two or more chemicals mix together, a new chemical compound is created.

    I think this mother did the right thing. Children are been bullied now more than ever before! The bullying led to those being bullied to harm others to now those being bullied kill themselves. I certainly would not be willing to take the risk that my young child would have the capability of disregarding the teasing and instead find out that she couldn’t handle the teasing only when I find her hanging in her closet!

    I have a son who was bullied from 6th grade through his senior year, after we moved from a state where he’d never been bullied to my home state. He was bullied because he was VERY intelligent, having an IQ of 157. (He didn’t know that until I told him 6 months ago when he’s now an adult at the age of 36.) He developed stomach problems, didn’t want to go to school, and actually missed alot of school in his junior and senior years, all because teachers looked the other way when he was pushed into his locker and the door shut on him! When a school overlooks bullying, (I was actually told “Boys will be boys.”) these children have no feeling of safety in the environment where they spend at least 6 – 7 hours a day. He choose to align himself with other “new” kids in the school so at least he had a few friends.

    Parents are responsible to keep their children safe. Therefore, anything a parent can do to give his/her child a safe environment in which to learn, grow, and become the person we know they can be is the right thing to do. If ear pinning can prevent a possible child/teenage/young adult suicide, the parent has a responsibility to do so. To expect a child to turn the other cheek minute after minute is expecting too much from a very young child.

  91. rain.here says:

    I think it’s just fine. My husband’s ears stick out, so do my sons, one of them dramatically. Luckily both of our daughters got mom’s ears. But if it was our girls who got those…charming imperfections, we would probably have had them fixed without much hesitation. And we may get our son’s done IF he ever asks. Repeatedly.
    Somehow, it’s just different for boys. It doesn’t seem to matter to most of them, but little girls just want to look like the princesses they’ve been told they are.

  92. alumette says:

    To tack the ears back is not that big of a deal for a healthy kid but could make a huge difference with the self esteem. Why not ? As far as nose jobs for those with the big humps and the small chins, they should wait until some point in their teens. I have seen dramatic results in 17 year olds. Well worth the money. These issues are not about vanity but certainly contribute to a healthy and happier life.

  93. mimilarue says:

    I think it’s great that this mom has the foresight to do something that will help her child for the rest of her life! If the child is agreeable and is involved in the decision making, then bravo! This really isn’t such a big deal in the scheme of life.
    A pediatric nurse

  94. dore says:

    There will always be something about ourselves we don’t like. The secret it to learn to embrace those things and to understand that we as people are so much more that, for the most part these imperfections are of little value or meaning. There will always be a reason to fix something, certainly Barbara Streisand could have endured a nose job, but then, she would not be herself today perhaps? There are exceptions, serious birth defects.. but.. for most of us- learn to love yourself..

  95. Holly - Montreal QC says:

    My sister had surgery at 13 because she had “Dumbo Ears”. Although 7 yrs old seems young, the pure cruelty that other children can put someone through is absolute ####. I wish my sister could have had her surgery earlier. At 34 yrs old, she still has emotional scars to this day because of the bullying she went through. Better to have surgery young, and avoid the pain and suffering not only as a child, but that can carry on with you to adulthood.

    People who say it’s too young, or stupid, or, my fav, child abuse. Have you ever spoken to a doctor about this? More importantly, have you ever had to hold a child who’s sob’s are shaking their entire bodies because of the cruelty they are going through. Bullying has evolved dramatically in the last 20 yrs, and it has evolved into a beast with more teeth, and more hatred than any parent can shield their child from if they are the target.

    As for waiting until she’s older; ears sticking out will continue to stick out no matter what. Only surgery can make them pin back and thus, continue to grow in a “proper” direction. Not like they’re suddenly going to “pop” back out.

  96. Anon in Pgh says:

    My parents got this done for my brother when he was 12, some 40 years ago. It ended years of getting into fights from kids making fun of his ears. Neither he nor my parents ever regretted it – no more fights, and he began to blossom (or whatever the term is for boys!).

  97. brady says:

    it’s not too late to begin homeschooling her. pull her out of that #### hole called public school. there’s no sense in sending her into a lion cage to fend for herself, year after year.

  98. em says:

    My mom had this same procedure done for the same reasons when she was around 8 years old, and that was in 1961. So, this isn’t exactly a new or groundbreaking procedure. Yes, it is risky and those risks definitely should be considered. But children undergo surgery for tonsillectomies that could be postponed or not necessarily life-or-death. These types of surgeries carry the same risk.
    But to prevent your child from a childhood of bullying, maybe it was the right decision in the case. As we all know, children’s bullying is cruel and can leave a lasting impression for years to come. Changing schools won’t necessarily help, kids will probably bully her there and make fun of her big ears. This isn’t bullying based on a fight or disagreement, but a noticeable and unusual trait that children naturally gravitate towards noticing and commenting on.
    My mom says she remembers her own experience. She says it hurt while healing, but afterwards felt better and “normal”. She was also glad her classmates and siblings stopped calling her “Dumbo” all of the time. She now thinks it was a good choice by her parents and despite being a kid, she understood it and agreed with their choice for her own self-esteem.
    If parents force their child to have this procedure or any others, then I would say there is an issue. But each case is different, so there can’t a simple one-size-fits-all answer or precedent for these things.

  99. Sharon K. says:

    I am trying to discern the difference between a mother having her child’s ears pinned and mother having braces put on her child’s teeth. It is likely that Samantha would have eventually grown into her ears and it is also likely that she would have developed a “tough hide” and would have learned to ignore bullies and embrace her flaws (look at Lauren Hutton); but maybe not! If this was done by the parent with a loving and protective heart and was followed up with discussion on how beauty truely is skin-deep then I have nothing but kudos for this parent.

  100. Michelle says:

    It is okay to change things as long as you do not do it on a whim. Like some of you have said, ear-pinning is a common practice in children.

    Also– some of you should really learn how to spell before you comment online.

  101. fiveman says:

    My mother had the same procedure done to me in the 1960s because a grown man call me “Dumbo” while we were out shopping. It is not just children who bully. There are people who thrive on abusing children. It often comes down to who are you going to believe me or the kid,

  102. gp says:

    Embrace your flaws? Seriously? Would you embrace a flawed heart valve, or a cleft palate? Are you also against orthodontia? This was a very simple surgical procedure that corrected something which was an issue for this poor child, and you have the nerve to judge her and her mother’s choices? I think perhaps your problem is just a misplaced bias against the term ‘plastic surgery’ used in this article, as opposed to ‘corrective surgery’, after all, plastic is out of fashion these days.

  103. James Denison says:

    I don’t see any difference between that and kids with crooked teeth getting braces to correct and straighten them.

  104. Em says:

    My cousin had this exact procedure done at around the same age for the same reasons, about 35 years ago. It was not a big deal and it saved him very much grief.
    I think this has been going on for a long time but there is a different context now, with all the procedures that people get done today.

  105. kara says:

    Seriously…people have been pinning kids ears for 40+ years. My sister had it done when she was about 3 yrs old. Get over it people.

  106. momof5 says:

    Give me a break of course the mom did the right thing. Its just pinning ears back not getting her ##### bigger. I would have done it in a heartbeat and I am a medically conservative mother. Better at 8 when shes young enough to put the bullying behind her rather than a self consious teen that every one now knows she had surgery done and her self esteems been trashed. You people really have to remember that its a parents right to do what they feel is best for their child. And believe it or not this mom probably tried everything before doing this. We undercut our daughters ability to be themselves by being such a hypocritical oversexualized society with complete double standards and mixed messages about beauty. Parents and doctors usually want the best quality of life for a child trust them and let them move on with life. Good job MOM.

  107. Lorene says:

    These parents of this kids that bully need to start taking care of their children at home. There is no reason for this children can be so damn cruel. The world is bad enough without these animals picking on the pure sweet children. Parents need to start taking responsibility for their childrens actions and perhaps actually spend time with their kids as families instead of letting tv babysit their kids

  108. Former teacher says:

    I had a child in a Kindergarten class that had this same issue. He was constantly picked on and as a result was a very shy, insecure little boy. He had the surgery and when he came back was proud and shared with the class what he had done and only one or two kids picked on him anymore. He became a happy, cheerful and outgoing little boy. I feel like it is one thing to get major reconstructive surgery, but when a doctor and a therapist agree that it would be beneficial for the child’s social development, it is a good thing

  109. teethscrape says:

    I think it is absolutely disgusting that parents are making their children get plastic surgery just to stop kids from bullying them. Getting bullied is part of the humbling experience of growing up. Kids need to learn that they aren’t “all that” all the time and need to be given some reality sometimes. Bullying that ends in violence is not good, but kids picking on each other and pointing out each others’ flaws is part of growing up, the world isn’t perfect, people aren’t perfect, kids do not act perfect, and your child isn’t perfect. So what if they get picked on, it will make them tougher later in life. Contrary to the idiots in the media, almost no kids commit suicide because of name-calling. just like not many people die in car wrecks, but yet we still drive cars at each other everyday.

  110. Kel says:

    I think the one thing that people are missing about this is the fact that this mother did something to help her child. I think that what this mother did for her daughter is fine as long as she makes sure her daughter understands that this is a one time thing. I have a friend who has an ear that sticks out and while I think it is endearing, as a child he was teased mercilessly.
    So I say bravo to tins mother for helping out her daughter, hopefully in the future things will be much easier for this young lady and her beautiful ears, which by the way never stop growing.

  111. Kris Carter says:

    I see nothing wrong with fixing the child’s ears to make her more attractive. It is like fixing a birth defect in a way and by doing it it will make the child have a much better life. What is wrong with that?
    The parents are not trying to make her win beauty pagents, just have a normal life.

  112. NYC_mom says:

    I had my daughter’s years pined back when she was8 y.o. Actually i regret I waited for that long – the majority of pediatric plastic surgeons suggest to do so at age 4 -6. My daughter would leave her hair lose and they would cover her face all of the time – would interrupt with her writing and reading, getting on the way while eating, etc. She WOULD NOT let me cut her hair short or get them in the pony tail. She would beg me for this procedure and I gave in with a hefty price tag of 12K (Welcome to NYC). The procedure was rather long as they had to create the fold, but she was laughing and singing on her way home from the hospital. She had some discomfort for a couple of days and no painkillers were given to her. She is beyond happy with her new years as she started new school this fall – I finally get to see my child’s face! She is trying new hair styles, feels more confident and became more outgoing. All of you who judge – you have no idea what you are talking about.

  113. Smackle says:

    I think since it’s ears, it’s okay. I had the same problem and what I wouldn’t have given to have had the same surgery at that age.

  114. Jacqui Bulkley says:

    The surgery to pin one’s ears back has been a common surgery for children for years and is not necessarily considered “plastic surgery”. Now if she has taken her child for a nose job, liposuction, or implants (before she was done growing) I would have a huge problem with that. As described by Leigh (April 16 2011 11:19), ear-pinning is closer to using braces to repair leg problems (or on teeth), or surgery to repair a cleft pallet, etc…. There are just some things to do for your child to make LIFE easier to live (but not necessarily “prettier”).

  115. Sheila says:

    Children should change as they grow, and the parent should have told her that, and said let’s wait and see. Those taunting her this year, may get tired of it after awhile.

  116. Kristina K says:

    I would normally never post but the disgusting comments from Kat, made me furious! The following is what she said,

    “This woman should be thrown in jail for child abuse!! MY GOD at seven years old she is still changing and growing, she will not look the same in 5 years, she could grow her hair longer but to send your child into surgery and teach her that it can “fix” problems is wrong!! They fixed her ears of which there was NOTHING WRONG WITH them. Whats next..her breasts because some little girl makes fun or teases because they’re not a certain size? How about her labia…you know when they go through puberty….her nose, eyes …it will never end….kids are mean. She is not in school forever, why not change schools or areas? What about home schooling?? Surgery is drastic and there was nothing wrong with her, she was a beautiful little girl before surgery. ANY of you sick women who think this is a good thing that her mom did are probably more insecure then confident in your own body….I’m horrified they even allowed this surgery, its sick.”

    I absolutely agree with the mother for having otoplasty done on her child. I had the same procedure done on my ears in my early 20’s and wished it had been done at an earlier age. The child is still beautiful and now will have the confidence she deserves. I am baffled that she suggests sequestering the child (victim) because of the cruelty imposed on her by others. Maybe the other children’s parents should try and instill some more empathy into their own child. Also, bullying in this age of technology is levels above anything we dealt with in our youth. Now, they cannot get away from it. Yes, children can be mean but this procedure corrects something more similar to a birth defect. She is not having surgery for bigger #### and a smaller nose. I doubt this little girl will even where her hair pulled back into a clip or ponytail. This condition is not something you grow in to or out of. Her ears will continue to stick out when she is done growing. In my opinion, the girls mother did absolutely the right thing by her daughter. I have two children with Autism whom are the most wonderful children ever! Should I not get them “speech therapy” because they should be happy with not speaking. People need to think before they speak and try and put themselves in the other persons shoes.

    On another note. You would be shocked at the studies that show how looks effect ones adult life. Look them up and you will see the stats.

  117. NYC_mom says:

    just noticed that auto-correct switched ears to ‘years” – I am sorry…

  118. Mandy says:

    My niece had this done at about the same age. A simple procedure. I don’t really see a problem with it.

  119. jaxxy21 says:

    I am behind the mom. And i hope it shines a spotlight on bullied kids. My own daughter was relentlessly bullied by kids until i had to step in,,trust me, once i finished telling them what would happen to them they didnt bother her again. call me a bully if you like but as a parent you do what you have to. i didnt give birth to or raise a bully and i refuse to let someone else’s lack of proper parenting impact my own child. i absolutely hate bullies and woe be unto anyone who bullies in front of me. they are no different than murders to me,,they just kill other children very slowly.

  120. BUCKSNORT says:

    i have no problem with Anyone doing what they feel is right for them or their child , but really show me one person over the age of 10 that has never been picked on. it’s a part of life

  121. BUCKSNORT says:

    i have no problem with Anyone doing what they feel is right for them or their child , but really show me one person over the age of 10 that has never been picked on. it’s a part of life

  122. Pamela says:

    Since parents still allow their children to bully other children, I don’t think she had much choice.

  123. Teresa says:

    Would you fix a big hairy mole on your face, or have surgery to remove a 6th finger? The girl just wants to look normal, she isn’t going all Heidi Montag. And I love the comparison to braces-it is right on!

  124. Jpennell says:

    NO!! The child will suffer abuse all the way through school, as kids are cruel sometimes. She will have a better self-esteem. It is a shame that it came to this at such a early age, but in the long run, I think she will be happier.

  125. Theresa says:

    I would have LOVED for my parents to have gotten me this procedure when I was 7!!! It would have saved a lot of tears and heartbreak, Just being able to brush my hair behind my ears would have been so much easier without being called “Dumbo” or some other cruel name. As a 38 year old woman, I am confident in my own skin, but growing up…not so much, I still might have this procedure done some day.

  126. sharon says:

    I don’t think the plastic surgery was that big of a deal, in germany health insurance even pays for this procedure. A friend of mine, who is now 18, thanks her mother every day for letting her go through it.
    I think this is just a case of people thinking they have the right to get in another family’s business – I wish some of them took the time to question their own motives and values as thoroughly.

  127. Greg says:

    Fixing ears is fine at 8, fixing a nose, cheeks, etc at 8 is wrong. Common sense. Doesn’t anyone have any anymore?

  128. PHILLY says:


  129. Dave says:

    I had to wait until I was 22 and paid $3,500. Even at 22 I still copped smirks and a few wise cracks, wish my parents had listened.

  130. Nancy says:

    In situations like that, I think it is perfectly fine to get surgery, I don’t even see it as PLASTIC SURGERY. If that is plastic surgery, then getting BRACES on your child’s teeth must be an awful thing to do too!!!
    I would NEVER subject my child to live a life of torment if I could fix it. Just like I would have never let any one of my four children go WITHOUT braces! Both my girls had Cross-bites… (One upper tooth was behind the lower tooth). Never in a million years would I let that go.

    Getting your ears pinned is not like getting a FACELIFT for crying out loud!

    I am very pleased with this mothers love, care and for-sight in this matter.

  131. sara says:

    we knew some people in Alabama that had their sons ears pinned back at 5 years old….very sad
    they assumed people would make fun of his ears because they weren;t happy with them
    ITs who we are inside that makes who we are on the outside

  132. Mike says:

    “unphased”?!? are you serious, Rachel Adler?

    it’s “unfazed”


  133. drdave says:

    The better solution would be to teach kids empathy and punish cruelty, but that would require schools and parents to pay attention and pay for it. It’s sad that it has come to this, but what rational person would want their child to be the object of ridicule and abuse?

  134. matters not says:

    Insane. Even for a 16 yr. old to have cosmetic surgery. American culture is twisted by this fad and everyone must be beautiful outward because inward nothing matters.

  135. matters not says:

    I am pleasantly surprised by the high number of people here who still have not lost their conscience to our over whelming culture of extreme vanity. I am proud of you all and wish you were my friends and neighbors. You have held on to the virtues of inner significance of a human being.

  136. matters not says:

    here is an ironicism. I am considered “hot” at 55. yet for some odd reason, many of my friends are fat. Real fat. I am “OK” with this as they are really cool people. But the trade off is, I am not allowed to bring any of my “fat friends” to parties, dinner dates, or any social gatherings when I am invited. And over the past 5-7 years, these invites have all but ended as I do bring my girl, ( a hottie) and always my fat friend or two.
    I figure, I do not want people as friends if they reject others for their outward appearance.

  137. burroflatsman says:

    I had to pay over $10,000 of my own money for plastic surgery to repair the upper lip of my 12 year old foster son who had a curled lip from abuse when he was 5 years old it made a world of difference to his self esteem but social services said that medicaid would not cover plastic surgery It was money well spent

  138. wiseword says:

    What I think is that the word is “unfazed,” not “unphased.” Ignorant writer? Sleeping spell-check?

  139. SAWolf says:

    How about a martial arts class instead. Learning about chi will do far more for her confidence, and if the bullies still bother her, then kick some.

  140. cordwainer says:

    If the mother were a responsible adult herself, she wouldn’t have chosen a potentially harmful, and frankly vanity-driven, alleged “solution.”

    If the bullying was seriously damaging – beyond basic teasing about ears, verging on threatening, or interfering with the daughter’s ability to access her classes, locker, restrooms, eat lunch etc. – the mother should have been responsible enough to stand up for her daughter, visit the school, ask the bullies be required to abide by the rules. She could have requested school authorities start observing the situation, become more involved, enlisted other parents, talked with officials, agencies, law enforcement as needed.

    She could have done what parents are supposed to do: work with the school – or against the school if needed – to make sure the bullies suffer the adverse consequences of their actions, not the victim.

    How sad her daughter, instead, was the one put at further risk, and who may now suffer the consequences of someone else’s unacceptable behavior, not only the bullies’ but her own mother’s.

    If schools fail, parents have a responsibility to point out the failure, and take whatever action is necessary to hold the school accountable, including working with others to solve the problem.

    Unfortunately, there are millions of bad parents out there, ones who are too lazy, too cowardly or, as noted, too immature themselves to take their responsibilities seriously. Some simply don’t like to be inconvenienced by having to deal with the day-to-day, never-off-duty commitment parenting requires for at least 18 years – in reality, the rest of their lives.

    Some, obviously, confuse money with love, and think that, say, plastic surgery (unbelievably) is a reasonable response to a child’s hurt feelings, as opposed to mature reassurance and genuine emotional support.

    Real love helps children grow, but parents who themselves have never grown up hurt their children by trying to protect them from everything bad or painful. Or they think throwing enough money at the problem is somehow sufficient to count as “good” parenting. Never mind whether it actually helps the child as a person, or instead psychologically harms them more.

    This mother showed no parental responsibility, instead a frightening immaturity herself, echoed in the comments here by other scarily childish parents.

    Children are not adults. Treating them like adults, thinking of them as adults, is one of the most harmful things one can do to a child. That concept is at the root of most of our laws protecting children from being forced or allowed into “adult” situations of every kind, from legal contracts to life-risking sports to sexual activity.

    I won’t go into detail about the laws pertaining to bullying in many states and school systems, or the need to make certain schools are living up to their own educational, disciplinary, and legal responsibilities.

    What’s relevant here is that PARENTS have a non-transferable responsibility, because they ARE parents, to be there and give adult help with whatever is happening in their childrens’ lives. To be involved every single day, and to step in when necessary, not to help the child avoid everything negative, but to help their child become stronger.

    And they have an obligation to commit their time and effort – not just money – to change a bad situation, including working together with their child’s school, other parents, local agencies, etc., to eliminate bullying, by both deterrent and corrective methods.

    But plastic surgery on a child to “correct” a purely cosmetic NON-problem? As a response to bullying?

    If the child’s hearing was affected, that’s one thing. Corrective surgery is reasonable, as are braces to correct dental problems that do, in fact, affect overall health. Or eye surgery to correct a vision problem too severe for glasses/contacts to be effective, and so on. And though I DO have a problem with overly-adult cosmetics, or clothes inappropriate for chldren (and question if even adult parents should go around looking like, for example, hookers), I don’t have a problem with non-harmful cosmetic palliatives.

    The mother could have helped her daughter learn how to handle bullying comments in a better way, bolstered her self-esteem, and also had some fun playing with hairstyles, makeup, etc., without being hypocritical or leaving even the faint suggestion the bullies were right.

    A seven-year-old doesn’t reason like an adult, and doesn’t necessarily understand the surgery was intended to spare her further pain. It’s sadly likely she now has a suspicion she deserved the bullying, that she was ugly or weird. That she was the problem instead of her tormenters. Based on numerous examples and studies, she may begin to blame herself for the bullying. She may come to fear further surgery and pain if she ever again complains about bullying.

    If so, who will she be able to trust, now her own mother has proven untrustworthy…an enemy rather than an ally?

    The potential for harm is enormous and all too real. The alleged benefit is unproven, and a number of commenters have shared stories indicating there may be NO long-term benefit, but instead long-term harm and resentment. Or at best a temporary lull in the previous teasing before the bullies find another feature or personality trait to target.

    Purely cosmetic, non-medical, unnecessary surgery is something adults “elect,” not something children should be subjected to. Parents have no right to PRE-make adult decisions for their children. Children have the right to be who they wish to be as adults, unencumbered by the results of irreversible procedures whose long-term outcome can not be known, and which may, by then, even have caused irreparable harm.

    And what if this child finds, once she reaches her full growth, the results of the surgery themselves are perceived as a “deformity,” her ears out of proportion to her adult features. What if she realizes she can not live with it, or because of complications finds she must undergo unwanted surgery to REVERSE what was done to her as a child. BEFORE her physical, biological growth was complete? When her own mother was too short-sighted to realize unnecessary, adult procedures are not a responsible choice for still-developing children?

    When medically-unnecessary surgery is chosen – or demanded – by a parent for a child, that is child abuse plain and simple, as much so any other abuse that subjects children to adult situations and actions. We need to begin treating, banning, and, if necessary, prosecuting it as such.

    Putting any child at risk for potential harm, surgical complications, permanent physical consequences – even death – as a response to bullyingis unconscionable, considering there are numerous better options that address the actual problem, without punishing the victim, and without any possibility of further harm to the child.

    That such an irresponsible action by a parent is not illegal nationwide is something we should be ashamed of. The hypocrisy of allowing such a thing, while purporting to “protect” children from abuse, verges on nauseating.

    The number of people who praise the mother’s actions explains a great deal about the mental problems and depression becoming more and more evident in children and teenagers. With parents like that, who wouldn’t be mentally damaged? Who wouldn’t be afraid…at home, as well as at school?

  141. Joan Harlin says:

    In this case, it is a very good thing. The mom was right to allow her daughter to have the procedure. Children are wicked from grade school through high school. This little girl would have been tormented through all of those years by the Mean Girls who exist in every school and date back from decades past. It is a matter of survival when you have Mean Girls concocting all sorts of ways to humiliate another female who is different. Girls are meaner than boys by a long shot. God Bless this young lady and I wish her a happy life filled with kind people. Forget the Mean Girls as they will always be trash.

  142. cameobt says:

    Why do you doubt it she would have the operation later? More likely, she would wish she had had it done earlier. At age 5, I knew that my ears were big and have been covering/ashamed of them ever since Children know when they’re different, and feel the sting and hear the taunts at a very young age. Not everything can be fixed, but pinning back has been performed by surgeons for well over 50 years. It’s a minor procedure will make a world of positive difference in this young girl’s self image, opportunities and life. And on the same grounds — do those who object also have scorn for parents who have orthodontists straighten their teeth with braces?

  143. xtine says:

    Hearing her mother did a “great” thing makes me cringe tremendously.. whether it was a sarcastic comment or not.

    Bullies will bully other people no matter how they look.. whether they’re the prettiest or the ugliest. They’ll find reasons to bring you down!

  144. Rhonda says:

    Gaawwww! Noones sed nething bout the intrligince of yunger posters hear, but I bet mony they r the meen gurls teesing that pour giirl into sergery!

    Kids. before you post, PLEASE learn to spell. You’re taken much more seriously when you can at least communicate in the same language as those you are trying to communicate WITH. With that point in mind, too bad there’s not a surgical implant for missing education and/or intelligence. I say this with ALL age groups under consideration. Intelligence implants – needed at LEAST as badly as cosmetic surgery due to the misbehavior and negative actions of others. I’d gladly contribute towards, say a jerk makeover!

    Leave this mom and kid alone – who are we to judge anothers’ actions?

  145. Angie says:

    My ears stick out and I wish my parents would’ve gotten them fixed. I went through #### in school, and still have anxiety problems because of it. I quit sport sbecause I had to have my hair back. Avoided applying for certain jobs that required my hair up. You can say all you want to “embrace your flaws” but when you are bullied and harrassed daily to the point of thinking of taking your own life….then you would understand. At age 11 I sewed my ears to my head, hoping to fix them myself. We moved when I was 14, and I started in a new school. I never wore my hair up, kept it at bob length so no one wondered why it was never up, and school was much easier since no one knew.

    Children are cruel. With my hair down, I have been told I could be a model. WIth it up, I’m called dumbo. I have tried to get over it….but it is so much easier to just hide the flaw. Hoping one day to have the extra cash to get them fixed.

  146. Judy Mannix says:

    I think that the bullying would cause much more lasting harm than the surgery.

  147. KK says:

    I hardly think of pinning a child’s ears as “plastic surgery”. I know it may technically be just that, but I think if a child is getting bullied for their ears sticking out than it’s the parents job to fix it. There are even Doctors that perform this surgery free of charge to stop children from being bullied. Good for the parents here!!

  148. Mom In the Know says:

    I wholly support this mother. We had the surgery for our son when he was 5, before he started Kindergarten because we knew how kids would tease. He has been one of the most handsome boys in his school ever since (not just my opinion). He constantly gets compliments. We knew his ears would be noticed because of all the idiot adults who came up to us and said things like, “Wow his ears really stick out!” You wouldn’t believe people would be so stupid! Also, I knew a 16 year old boy at the time who was suicidal because the other kids constantly made fun of his big ears sticking out. His mom kept his hair buzz cut, which only made it worse. If you can afford it, it is abuse to not help your child; nobody would say it’s wrong to get braces for crooked teeth!

  149. Carol says:

    My mother in her mid 70s has ears that do not lay flat against her head. She has always hated it & wished she could have had them fixed as a child. It’s something I didn’t have to deal with, but without a doubt my mother would have seen to it that any child of hers did not bear this burden.

  150. Willow says:

    Um…WTF? Why would anyone think that an ear deformation would prevent someone from getting a job? Maybe a modeling job, but it’s not like modeling is the be-all and end-all of a career. There are multitudes of careers out there. This is a kid. She could be anything. She could grow up to be a banker, a journalist, an IT professional, a chef, president, **anything***. Stop thinking small.

  151. cbrise says:

    soooooo how is this different from putting braces on your kid’s teeth–you could say it is for bite, but they aren’t starving are they? superficial whatever, until YOU teach YOUR normal seemingly perfect kids to valuedifferences, they will make others miserable–let her feel normal–or take the gd braces off your child and let them embrace their smile.

  152. kathleen simms says:

    Personally, If your family can swing it financially, and Samantha is getting bullied, more power to mom. This little change in Sam’s appearance can and most likely will open doors for her in the future. Now you can beat those little snots by excelling in school, trying to not play their same lame game, and then meeting new, kind, friends. Stay sweet, Samantha.

  153. Mknear says:

    So when kids make fun of her because she’s more flat chested than her peers at age 14, is mommy going to take her for a boob job? Kids are cruel. Yes, it sucks, but adults are the same way. Just have to learn how to shrug it off (easier said than done, speaking from personal experience).

  154. Donna says:

    My daughters ears stick out & one is shaped differently than the other. She is 5 now & hasnt been teased but if that haapens & she chooses i’ll get them fixed.

  155. tara pittelko says:

    I think it is an appropriate decision. I would be willing to make a similar one for my daughter.

  156. Terri Sue Taylor says:

    Personally, I think that perhaps talking to school counselors and staff first would have been the best choice, or moving to a different school or community may have been a cheaper alternative. However, if the 7 year old has come home and repeatedly complained to her mother about fearing being hurt for her ears’ appearance by fellow students and no other attempt to stop the bullying has helped, and she understands that surgery might or might not help, and agrees with her mother and the doctor together that it is the best option in her case, and it does not cause the family to be in debt, than it may be a good idea, as a ‘last resort’.

  157. PURRCIVAL says:

    The surgery in this case was just the right choice. We’re not talking about plumping her lips or enlarging breasts. This amounts to corrective surgery here.

  158. Sara says:

    Anything within reason a parent can do to ameliorate the hellish torture of taunting by peers is laudatory. This is within reason. Botox is not.

  159. Tanya says:

    Surgery takes weeks to heal; emotional trauma from years of cruel adolescence takes years to heal, if it ever does. I’d never begrudge a family for choosing the former.

  160. Joan Doe says:


  161. AlphaD says:

    The real issue here is not the minor cosmetic surgery procedure, the real issue is the bullying. There is a very common mindset in our society that bullying is not that big a deal, just “something that kids do” , that it is part of growing up. It is not. It is degrading and destructive. I strongly believe that our schools should, from PreK on, have programs that actively discourage bullying, and teach children how to treat each other with respect, and how to repect the fact that just because someone is different than you does not make it okay to tease or bully them.
    As far as the procedure itself, I don’t think it is that big a deal to have a child’s ears pinned back and an ear fold fixed. Many people have that procedure done, primarily because they simply don’t want to have ears that stick out. Chances are the child would have wanted to have this done anyway once she became a teenager.

  162. really? says:

    It’s astonishing how naive some of you are. You say that the Samantha’s mom is a bad mother because she let her daughter get corrective surgery just because some kids at school were bullying her, and instead of doing the irresponsible thing of letting her receive surgery, go to the school and talk to the administration instead. Really? Do you not know that schools basically don’t give a d*mn anymore, and just push the issue aside? Plenty of kids committed suicide even after their parents talked to the school. Did the bullying stop? No, sometimes it even gets worse. And really, bullying is the humbling experience of childhood, do you really want your kids to come home crying and perhaps beat up everyday? Some of you are nuts.

  163. Dr. Fara Movagharnia says:

    I hope some people would stop interferring into others’ business. What is wrong with anybody at any age fix his or her ears? It is a deformity. Yes it is done by a plastic or cosmetic surgeon, but it is a correction of a deformity. Live and let other live their lives. Stop making a big deal out of things. This 7 year old girl’s mom did not take her to me or any plastic surgeon to get liposuction or breast augmentation that some people become ” skeptical”. What if she had a huge hemangioma, a bloody tumor on her neck and she wanted it removed? What if she had cleft lip/ palate? It is the same thing. Ear deformities can have a negative effect on a child, especially since some parents can not control their brat kids sho bully others and make kids’s lives who are different miserable to the point of suicide. Grow up people. Good for the young girl and her parents.

  164. Amand14 says:

    I know 2 children that had this surgery and it definitely was the right decision. They hated to go to school (children are cruel) before the surgery and had no problems afterwards. One reason that children have parents is to make decisions that they may not yet have the maturity to make.

  165. Been there says:

    Just as parents make other cosmedic medical decisions (circumcision for cosmetic not religious reasons) this mom made a decision for her child in the child’s best interest. When I was a child I also had ears that seemed too big for my head and stuck straight out. So much so that they would stick out through my hair. I begged my parents to have my ears fixed. I didn’t know the correct term, I just knew that I hated people calling me Dumbo among other names. As an adult I am still self conscious about my ears although what others thik of me is not important any more. I think she made a good decision.

  166. how sad says:

    all they’ve done is give credence to what the bullies have said. now the bullies will pick on her for something else… or they may still pick on her because she HAD bat ears. it’s not like bullies are bullies because they are rational or intelligent. they pick on people because they feel bad about themselves! all the plastic surgery in the world won’t fix that. too bad the damage is done and the poor little girl now has PROOF that she is not beautiful unless she has the approval of people who hate her. i understand wanting your daughter to feel as pretty as you think she is, but this was a big mistake. doing something for yourself is one thing, doing it to satisfy bullies is another. my daughter was bullied for being white in a hispanic and black school. should i have taken her for mega tanning sessions? no, because THAT would be stupid.

    i was bullied too. shoved into lockers, nearly drowned in a toilet, boys peed in my locker ruining my books, making me carry my urine scented text books and lunch to every single class or i’d have a urine soaked lunch bag too. it stopped when i refused to put up with their garbage anymore. doctors have yet to find a way to implant a spine in the kids AND the parents. “fixing” what the bullies are taunting you for IS NOT going to help.

  167. A says:

    I got big ears and I’m married to a playboy playmate! Lol

  168. md2205 says:

    There is a website called http://www.bullies2buddies.com, run by a social worker in Staten Island, Izzy Kalman. He can be reached by phone to teach kids how to handle bullying on their own by learning the social skills to do so using role playing. His method is fun and easy to learn and works like a charm. The bullied kid becomes so confident and well-liked. Please try it for your child’s sake.

  169. Peggy says:

    I think the Mother was correct in this instance. Having “cauliflour’ ears for any child, affects their self esteem and this would ultimately lead to an unhappy childhood. As we all grow up, we realize there will be may instances where we will face adversity. If this small procedure allows for the child to be happy, why wouldn’t you do it. I think if complaints are made with children and plastic surgery, let’s take a long hard look at the children beauty pagents. This is where the public’s outrage should be directed.

  170. JohnJames says:

    The main argument? There is NO main argument of any substance whatsoever. The mother did the right thing. Period.

  171. gotacomment says:

    Some of you characters sound like the kids I had the misfortune to go to school with. I had bad scarring on half my upper lip because of a hemiangioma that couldn’t be corrected until I reached adolescence. There was no way to hide it. Did any of you winners ever attend Ridge Road School or Pleasant Valley Junior High? You sound like the ones who were calling me “firelip” (they thought it was a burn scar; I never bothered to correct them because at that age I could see they were too stupid to grasp the concept) and scarface. The overt garbage finally came to an end in ninth grade and they at least let me alone. i was happy being ignored and lucky I had friends outside school, but even after surgery I still see what others claim they don’t.Whoever said the schools don’t give a da*m was right. My mother practically had to threaten to sue before the idiot teachers and administrators finally took action. This woman did the right thing for her daughter. I salute her.

  172. Bebe says:

    Kids can be cruel, fix the ears before the damage is irreversible. It’s not like they are trying to make her into ‘Barbie’ or a movie star kid, just keeping the bullies away.

  173. Jessica says:

    While I don’t think the child was harmed, I feel like this was a bad choice. It’s not about embracing flaws so much as it is about resisting the urge to mold ourselves into celebrity-like perfection. Real people are different and quirky. And setting your seven year old up to believe that they are not good enough is such a bad idea. Call it lazy parenting, call it over the top, but what it really is, is teaching your child that they suck, and beauty is the most important thing. It’s one thing to let your pre-teen try leg shaving or fake tanning.. totally another to put them under the knife for better looks.

  174. C. Smythe says:

    That is sickening. As a child, when I complained about my big ears, my Mother showed me a picture of Lyndon B. Johnson. She said if big ears was good enough for the President of the United States it was good enough for my tormenters and honestly, it worked! I never had any more trouble. It saddens me that americans have such low self esteem. It is no wonder they have been suckered by the banks and politicians . . . no wonder at all!

  175. Diana says:

    If the defining thing about a child’s appearance is something that is draws negative attention and ridicule, and is easily rectified, I think parents should absolutely fix it. As a child I had buck teeth. I was teased mercilessly and was delighted when I got braces at the age of 12. If it had required surgery to fix my teeth, I would have begged for it. It didn’t solve all of my problems, but I was no longer “that girl with the buck teeth” and people saw my pretty eyes and shiny hair before they noticed my flaws.

  176. Nancy Ashburn says:

    The Mother did the right thing. Everyone can give there opinion, how they think it is terrible but wouldn’t you do whatever you could to make your child’s life better. No one wants there child to be hurt in any way. Unless you have walked in the shoes of this little girl of her mother do not judge . it is wonderful that this child will not be picked on anymore. Oh wait yes she will, by all of you grownups out there talking about her mother. Everyone just mind your own business . If everyone would just worry about what goes on in there house and keep there nose out of other people’s business. I am sure if your life were opened up to the world through the media there would be something about it people would object to. Do not judge yet ye be judged.

  177. Christine says:

    We all know the krap*storm that Cammie is going to take over this. The fact that she completely listened to her daughter, understood the deep impact that this could have on her daughter long term and then did what she could to help her daughter, just goes to show the depth of her compassion and love for her daughter. Great job Cammie. I am sure it was not an easy decision but I applaud you for having the insight and courage to truly help your daughter in a positive manner. I wish more children had parents like you!

  178. Amanda says:

    Sad that it has to be done because of bullying, but if you can do it, it is better to be able to do these things at a young age, you remember less and it makes school life easier. In an ideal world, she would go to her parents and ask for it herself without bullies influencing her, but I would much rather see her get the plastic surgery at a young age than for her to be in 5 years sitting in her room, contemplating whether life was worth living all because of some complete idiots bullying her. I say good for the mom.

  179. Shelley Reinhart says:

    I don’t think this procedure should fall into the same category as what we consider to be “plastic surgery”. It’s not making someone better looking, it’s correcting a deformity of sorts. I had my ears pinned back when I was 12 and it changed my life. To this day ( I am 40) I can still hear the calls of “Hey Elephant Ears”. Having that procedure done made me a much more confident and now a very succesful person. I truly believe my life would be dramatically different had my parents not made the decision to have that surgery done. If you can save your child from the scars and torment by having a minor procedure that makes the rest of their life better, why wouldn’t you?

  180. JB says:

    The right thing! It was done for my son at 6yrs. Has been a blessing for 38 more yrs.

  181. Dana says:

    My ears stuck out as a kid. I was teased and called Baby New Year (Look it up). I survived. What is kids start teasing her because of her chin or cheeks or forehead? What then? Let children be. I grew into my ears and they don’t stick out anymore and I forgot that they stuck out until reading this article. I survived.

  182. Tina says:

    My daughter had also her ears pinned back. She was 6 years old at that time and she was already picked on by 2nd and 3rd graders in her school. Kids can be soooo cruel….all these people here posting negative comments about the surgery have no idea what my child went through…..I understand that there are different degrees of “big” ears…..my daughters ears were standing out so far from her head she couldn’t even cover them up with her hair. Very extreme – still sticking out and a pony tail was completely out of the question. Now she is a happy 8 year old, beautiful girl and the first thing that people see is her face, her friendly, happy character and NOT her ears. ALL of our friends and family – they all said that this surgery was the best thing we could have ever done for our daughter. I’m sure there are many other “flaws” that my kids have to deal with when they are growing up that will teach them how to stand up for themselves…..

  183. granny says:

    The mom- bashing is all relative, if it’s not your child , the criticism is deserved. If it were your child,what would you do?
    It’s such a shame that all this cruelity goes on in schools, on the internet, everywhere .Maybe the
    answer lies in all parents.Whatever happened to the Golden Rule? Instead of bashing this mom,
    why don’t all of you teach your children.” Do unto others what you want others to do unto you.”
    Make it your business to raise children who are kind and considerate. All learning begins with YOU. To correct your children when they make unkind remarks by simply pointing out that they would be hurt if someone did the same to them may actually stick in their heads when the temptation to do so arises.This works! I speak from the granny pulpit.

  184. R says:

    I know SO MANY children who get their ears pinned back, most of them earlier than 7! I wouldn’t even begin to consider it plastic surgery (I mean technically speaking it is, but you can hardly classify it with rhinoplasties and boob jobs!).

  185. Derrick says:

    I think we should find those bullies and give their parents a hefty fine so they learn to teach their kids tolerance and acceptance.

  186. memphispiano says:

    NEWSFLASH! It’s NOT your child!!!! It’s NONE of YOUR business! It’s amazing that often the same people who think it is a mother’s right to kill her unborn child (up to 9 months) think it’s not the mother’s right to protect their child from bullying etc. This mother made a decision she felt was in her child’s best interests…and it was her right to do it.

  187. memphispiano says:

    NEWSFLASH! It’s NOT your child!!!! It’s NONE of YOUR business! It’s amazing that often the same people who think it is a mother’s right to kill her unborn child (up to 9 months) think it’s not the mother’s right to protect their child from bullying etc. This mother made a decision she felt was in her child’s best interests…and it was her right to do it.

  188. SeniorHomer says:

    What’s weird is not so much that they had surgery done on a 7-year-old kid (which is a little weird, but possibly understandable), but that no one could do anything about the bullying and/or her response to it. As a parent, I would never have considered doing anything that drastic to one of my kids before exhausting every other option, including taking the time to go and volunteer during recess or whatever it would take to get through to the other kids and put a stop to that silliness long before I’d let a bunch of brainless girl-gangsters (or whoever they were) push my kid into such a choice.

  189. ThinkNauts says:

    A folded ear hasn’t seemed to hold Stephen Colbert back. Why get rid of something that makes you a unique individual?

  190. Maureen townsend says:

    I got my sons ears “fixed” also. He was born with limp, smooth ears, which once they did stand up, s
    they were straight out from his head, and sunlight shone through them, making them look like red lights outside. We told him we were going to get them “matching” he was unphased by the surgery, he is now 14 years old, and pleased with his ears. He can embrace other flaws in himself. The surgery was worth every dime.

  191. Dana says:

    Lot’s of people are complaining and saying how you should embrace yourself as you are… then stop epilating/shaving, don’t go to the gym, stop wearing makeup and show yourself to the world just as you are!!!! Geez, you people don’t know anything about being bullied. Sure, you grow stronger, but scars remain. Those are PAINFUL experiences, especially when you’re a child. It’s a very difficult thing to overcome.
    I believe this mom did a good thing for her daughter. It’s not like the kid was fat and she gave her a lipo, or gave her botox to “make her look good” like this crazy UK mom we all read about. It was minor corrective surgery for a particular feature that made her stand out in a negative way in front of her classmates. Sure, people used to live with all kinds of physical flaws ’cause there was no chance to correct them. But now that there is, why not? Especially if it’s affecting the child’s chances of developing healthy relationships at school. It’s not a mother’s whim to make her girl look pretty. Let’s put some perspective here…

  192. idahobobtail says:

    Fixing of batwing ears and top of ear folds have been fixed for many, many years. I am in my 80s and when I was a child a friend of mine had his ears set close to his head. He looked better and it didnt hurt him very bad but to bad the didnt fix his nose. What snoze.

  193. katie says:

    I used to work for an ENT. This is a common procedure. Actually some insurance companies pay for it. It’s not a case of the mother forcing the child. In all the cases I’ve seen the child has been bullied to tears and unable to function at school. For insurance to pay there has to be medical documentation of the child’s mental issues from the teasing related to the ears appearing big. It’s no different than having warts, moles or other unsightly things “fixed.” Thanks to media this has been blown up to some huge plastic surgery procedure that is “new.” We fix cleft palates because it’s unsightly and causes problem for children, so why not fix ears??

  194. Sharon Briggs says:

    I was that little girl may years ago who . My mom did nothing dispite various mean comments and how often I cried and begged her to have mine “fixed”. Kids can be painfully mean. Having ears that stick out affects hair styles, swimming, windy days, sports. If you don’t have them, you can’t imagine. This plastic world, if it help her self esteem, that is great. I never found mine. I say “KUDOS” to that Mom. I am happy for that little girl.

  195. Stacy says:

    My question is, will she get picked on more now for having this done? The bullies will find something else to pick on her about. I got bullied growing up. It’s not fun, but I learned alot from the situation. Mainly how NOT to treat other people.

  196. joshuasb says:

    Nothing wrong with that…saving her daughter years of ridicule. Now, as long as she doesn’t get fixated on other “flaws”, fine.

  197. sheila says:

    I think having big ears fixed is ok. Cleft lips are repaired and its considered cosmetic surgery and no one would think that was wrong.

  198. Kitty says:

    I seriously doubt, as some of you are saying, that the mother didn’t ask the child if she wanted the surgery. By the age of seven children have an understanding of cause and effect. Thereby the child understood perfectly well that her ears were the reason she was being bullied, and there was a way to fix her ears which she consented to. The mom made the decision to pay for the surgery that the child wanted. As for the comment that mom could’ve waited another 10 years and then ok’d the procedure, why? Why subject your child to another 10 years of bullying, and ruin half of her teenage years with boys not looking at her and sniggering at her behind her back. Its best done now, so that by the time she is 10 years older the stitches would be healed and she will be a cute little teenager like the rest of her peers. Bravo mom!

  199. Lisa Bailey says:

    I do not condone plastic sugery in young children, however, this is one that I would have probably done myself if need be. I think the little girl will be grateful for it later. It is very common, and in fact have a cousin who had it done when she was around that age. I often question when I see a teen who has that issue, and wonder why the parent did not have it done for their child, as it is something that will lower their self esteem. If you believe it is superficial, that is your opinion, but I look at is as reality. It is not adding or taking anything away, simply a corrective surgery as with straightening teeth. And often times with that, the orthodontist has to pull a tooth or two to make room for the teeth to properly straighten, and that too, is surgery.

  200. vicky says:

    I think that this mother made the choice that was in her childs best interest, I do not know what I would have done, since there is pain involved and I am sure no one wants to see their child in pain .
    I have a neice who had her hair done in a way that it would cover her ears on her 15th birthday party so I know how , she must have felt.

  201. jess14 says:

    The only thing this mother is guilty of is loving her daughter and desperately wanting to protect her from present and future hurt. If I could put a proverbial bubble around my daughter that would ensure she would never be hurt by her peers, I would.

  202. Rae Kelsey says:

    This mom loves her daughter and natural instinct is to protect. If a little proceedure can ease her daily routine, what harm will it do? there will always be something else, of course. You parents of these children who take aim at other children, teach them early to be respectful and set an example. Children will imitate what they hear and see at home (even when you think they are not paying attention). and those of you posting negative comments-it has to terrible for their loved ones to read. hopefully, they avoid the feedback…

  203. j says:

    ARE THESE PEOPLE INSANE?! What the #### are we teaching these kids? Now wonder theres no common sense or character in today’s youth!

  204. Josh H says:

    It is just dumb to change something about your appearance just because your are pressured into doing so without thinking why you want to do so. Why make such a major decision to opt for a cosmetic procedure because people tease you about some physical feature just because it does not fit the mold? To even opt for a cosmetic procedure for your child only seems to reinforce the existence of a “flaw” in the first place. Would a child not at least think that their parent believes they were born with “flaws” that should be “fixed”? I hope this child does not develop a psychological disorder of some sort. She needs to learn how to acquire a sense of serenity that comes from security and validation she can create within herself. It helps when a parent can provide validation and love, but a child nevertheless needs their parent to be a role model. A parent cannot fix everything with what money can buy.

  205. Roberto Jimenez says:

    She should have spent the money on a fight class like Krav Maga so she could kick the ‘carp’ out of the bullies. My mom put a bully in the hospital when she was a kid when the boy wouldn’t stop teasing her & her friends. He went to kick her, she grabbed his leg & he went down on his head on a rock. Let’s just say “mission accomplished”.

  206. DMcG says:

    From the title of the article I expected this to be about a nose job or something. But a folded ear almost qualies as a birth defect. My parents had port wine stains removed from my back when I was three. Were they evil? I don’t think so. They left my crooked ears alone, but at least they are not folded! We all have to deal with our features and physical attributes. But I am pleased this lettle girl won’t have to think of herself as “abnormal” anymore, or worse, as “deformed.” Good for MOM!

  207. jeanette says:

    So, what do they do when they tease her about some other part of her?

  208. Raine says:

    Years ago a friend had the same ear surgery for her young son who had been taunted by other kids calling him Dumbo.. The surgery was a success & the taunting stopped.

  209. AZmom says:

    My son was born with a cleft lif and palate…he could have lived with both……neither one caused any concern for his health. Should we have left him they way God made him?? NO….life is hard and people are cruel. We never once considered not having these “flaws” fixed. He has gone through 4 surgeries to date with possibly more to come in the future. I have never for one second regretted our choice and neither should this mother. Each family has to take care of it’s own in the best way they see fit.

  210. ted409 says:

    i swear humanity has reached a new low with all this bullying stuff
    i hope this girl is now left alone
    i used to work at a place where life was cool till some jerk came to work there.
    tho theyd never say anything about it i was told by another employee that the new employee was being driven crazy by me (without any intention or knowledge other than this conversation.
    i laughed as they did and went on
    one day this person was spoutin off and the co owner walks up behind them and asked them if they were picking on me again. it was hilarious. normally when i dont care for someone i just have nothing to do with them.
    another hysterical thing was the son in law who was also sales mgr. who was a smart ### to alot of people but boy did he shut up when the in laws got on his case : well im sorry you feel that way i heard him say one day otherwise what a jerk
    hopefully this little girl will be left alone now

  211. Amber says:

    I think that is ridiculous! she is 7!! plastic surgery should take years and years to decide if you want. It changes your body forever. even though this was just her ears, what’s next? nose jobs? breast implants? all kids are made fun of and all kids are awkward. simple. plastic surgery is running away from the fact that life is tough. she has taught her that by getting your looks change, you won’t get made fun of anymore. which is not true. look at the hills girl heidi, she regrets everything she’s done now. i’m not saying that this little girl will regret her ears getting fixed, but it sure sets her up to get more work done…

  212. Jana says:

    I think it is fine. I am now 36, but when I was 8 years old I had the same surgery done for the same reason. It made a huge difference in my life at the time. Kids can be cruel and I am so thankful my parents did that for me. It is a little more extreme than braces, but no different in my eyes. It didn’t enhance anything like a boob job, just made me look “normal” and fit in. I would do the same for my kids, but thankfully they did not inherit my ears. :)

  213. jacqueline13 says:

    First of all, the enraged person in me screams: ” Grab those bullies, line them up and tell everybody what is wrong with them (in an auditorium). It’s time to take real action against bullies. Look at what this innocent little girl is going through. I’d make them all accountable some how. Also, I don’t think it’s anything new pinning the ears. And it’s nothing new about bullying. It has to stop.

  214. Jenny says:

    In this case, no way! In this case, she will probably get more flack from those kids because she had the surgery and then the mother will be verbally attacked to. Also, this mom is showing her daughter that she finds her unacceptable by permitting the surgery.

    If a child is severely mauled by an animal, a physical attack by another person, or in a car accident , or has facial birth defect that will truly improve their lives by plastic surgery, I am grateful that the opportunity is there.

    That little girl is adorable and while her ears were “fixed” , I doubt that her spirit was. Even her own mothre doesn’t think her daughter was beautiful enough. How sad.

  215. Faith Goodman says:

    I think that if this mother wanted to correct her daughter’s ears, that is fine. But to relate it to the bullying as a solution for it is probably going too far. There are children who have crooked teeth that need braces. Kids get made fun of for those crooked teeth. There are children with cleft palates, maybe a wart that needs to be frozen off, or any other disfigurement that could be operated on in order to give a child more confidence. But to say we do surgery to solve bullying is ridiculous. If I had ears that stuck out, I would probably want them fixed as well.

  216. Jenny says:

    Please excuse my typos in the earlier post—trying to comment quickly! I wanted to add that anybody with a “flaw” like that has my permission to suggest heart surgery to the bullies because their hearts are cruel and ugly.

    The only physician who can do that kind of surgery is the Great physician, Jesus Christ. Oh that they would know about Him and his atonement on the cross. He went through so much more for them —flogged to the point that He was unrecognizable. He did that for those bullies because He loves them.

  217. Kim says:

    I had my ears pinned back when I was 5. I remember hazy bits of the recovery. Knowing how cruel kids can be when someone is “different” even when it is something minor like ears sticking out…I am glad my parents chose to have the procedure done for me. I don’t liken it to a nose job, or a boob job or lipo, but rather like getting contacts instead of having to wear glasses, or braces to straighten out your teeth. Cudos to the parents for helping their daughter fit in!!

  218. Don Derango says:

    @Corinne – Then how do you explain overweight or unattractive people who have jobs? You can not say “She would never have been hired” because you simply do not know that to be fact. You are assuming. What is fact is that as a child grows up, their bodies change. No one knows if this child’s ears would have stayed this way. If they did stay this way, she could always opt to have surgery later. What is also facts are that kids are cruel. They have always been cruel and they will always find a reason to pick on you. If it is not her ears, it will be her name. The way she walks. The way she laughs., The way she dresses. Are you seeing the theme here? Kids find reasons to pick on other kids, you can not run to a plastic surgeon for every little fault.

  219. jasmine says:

    This is responsible plastic surgery. Many many future scars from bullying will be avoided. Don’t we fix children’s buck teeth, cleft lips and palates? Why? For the same reasons; teasing, judging and staring and the hopes that the child will have a chance at a healthy self-esteem.

  220. iluvmycats says:

    The mother did the right thing and I am glad she had the resources to do so. Unless you yourself have been bullied…relentlessly as you get older, unfortunately, then you cannot possibly know the amount of pain that creates and the incredible amount of damage to one’s self-esteem. Yes, like so many others (TOO many others) she would have found a way to go on…but consider how, especially today, the world we live in…so full of hatred and violence for petty things. Yes, she did good.

  221. Jess says:

    Maybe this will end the bullying or maybe kids will find a new thing to tease Samantha about. Kids are unfortunately cruel. I believe as the adults we need to try and teach our kids more tolerance of others.

    What I really don’t understand is why this is a news headline. If she gets braces, that’s cosmetic correction and that doesn’t make the news. Think about all the flaws that you hide and then tell that 7 year old that she should embrace them while horribly cruel kids are bullying her and making her life miserable.

  222. donald bells says:

    sticking out ear adjustment is a normal procedure fone in children all over Latin America. I don’t thik it should be categorized as “plastic surgery”

  223. Jadedcee says:

    It would have been cheaper to hire a bunch of 9 yr olds to “mind” her in school. However in either case the bullies win because they forced a change. The best way to teach bullies is to isolate them. In later life if hey continue they will be excluded from society by prison bars, so it is better if they lean while they are young enough to learn he lesson.

  224. Johnny Appleseed says:

    I’d like to know if the author or this “story” has children.

  225. Todd Epley says:

    I suppose I don’t mind that the mother had her daughter get a very minor cosmetic surgery, but I am not sure how I feel about the reason for it. If the reason was that the girl was unhappy with the way her ears looked then I suppose I dont see too much wrong with it, but to do it in order to stop other children bullying her to me seems a little ridiculous. Kids make fun of other kids, that is just the way kids are. If she was born with normal ears, there may have been some other thing that she would have been made fun of for, or another kid in the class would have been made fun of for something else. In fact, I think it’s possible that the girl may end up being made fun of more for having plastic surgery than having quirky ears. Anyways, I think it’s sad that something as trivial as ears that look a little different make a mother want to have her daughter go through surgery. Anyways, its not my kid and its not really any of my or anyone elses’ business.

  226. Dinah says:

    It’s just sad that anyone has to go surgery to avoid bullying. I wish the Congress would pass an anti-bulling law. There’s no reason for bullying to be considered “free speech”.

  227. Anton says:

    If schools actually did something meaningful about bullying, maybe then you could criticize this mother. If you ever had a child that was bullied, you may understand. It took many phone calls to the principle, vice-principle, etc. to stop a child for bullying my son. After the 5th or 6th time he came home upset, I asked them why they were not punishing the bully with suspension, calling his parents, etc. It got to the point he didn’t want to go to school. It’s painful as a parent to see your child so miserable. To the moron who said change schools or home-school…why should this mother do that when she is paying taxes to have her child educated? Why should she uproot and move to another district, when another ####### child will probably do the same thing? I’m not saying I would go to this extreme, but I would never criticize her for doing it. It’s gotten so bad with facebook, etc., that this child would be tortured into middle school by bullies..I’ve read many stories of children driven to suicide.

  228. Tracy says:

    My son was born with tortellis. Which is the shortening of the neck muscle.Because of this my son could not turn his head to get off one side of his head. He suffered a misshaped head, one displaced ear and both ears protruded. He wore a helmet to reshape his head so he would not have a permanantly misshaped head. Before he enter public school at the age of 5. We did plastic surgery to repair the misplaced ear and tack back both ears. Our insurance refused to pay for the helmet and the plastic surgery was elective so not covered by insurance. We were told by the insurance company that our son’s misshaped head did not cause any developmental issues. I agree…but was concerned about the emotional issues he would have and poor self esteem he would have by having a cone shaped head for the rest of his life. The helmet was successful and the best thing I have ever done for my child….I agree with other posts that we buy braces for our kids crooked teeth. The ear surgery unfortunately repaired only one ear. We were warned it could take more then one surgery. My son had no pain with either the helmet or the ear surgery. He did request last year at age 8 to have the second surgery to repair the ear that was not fixed the first time. We did it and I don’t regret any of it and neither does he. The funny thing about our story is that it was not his peers that were cruel but adults who made comments about his “dog ear” as one of our neighbors referred to his one ear that required the second surgery. No body knows what it is like until your child has an issue. Don’t judge this mom. The surgery was not to make our son perfect or flawless…he just wanted to be like everyone else. I am sure this little girl and her mom just want the same thing. I also want to address those who say she should have waited until she was older to do this. We were told to do this type of surgery at a young age because the outcomes are better the younger the child is. As far as my son’s helmet goes, the longer we waited the more invasive and painful it would have been for him. If we had waited until he was older then he would have had to have his skull broken and reset which is a much bigger deal then wearing a helmet and physical therapy for 8 months. Don’t judge others until you have walked in their shoes….you don’t know what it is like until it is your child facing the issue.

  229. Chloe Rose says:

    This is more a case of *corrective* surgery. Many aspects of an individual’s appearance change as they grow into adulthood. Some *cute* children make odd-looking adults; *plain* children can become very attractive adults. Any surgery to change a child’s appearance should be carefully thought out and done only in very selected instances. This IMHO is a perfect instance of doing something for the right reasons.

  230. mynameisstolen says:

    Children and adults have been getting their ears pinned back for centuries. Doctors have been doing the procedure for 3000 years. Stupid interwebs and making something out of nothing. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Otoplasty

  231. mynameisstolen says:

    It is considered a deformity to have splayed out ears. Furthermore, the surgery is recommended in childhood to prevent further outward growth of the ears.

  232. Brown says:

    There is nothing wrong with getting plastic surgery to correct a birth defect. I’m so happy for this little girl.

  233. R. M. Ashby says:

    The Mother was right, my only question, why did she wait so long? If you love your child you will do what ever it takes so that they can be in a normal range. Be it their ears sticking out, a cross eye, a dropping eye lid, bow legs, extra fingers, extra toes, crooked teeth, birth marks…. On and on. That is why we take a child who is learning at a slower pace to be tutored. Next time a child is born with first stage hair lip, tell them to suck it up, deal with it, it will make you a better person. I’m sure it would be on a talk show, Mother has plastic surgery on a new born to make them socially acceptable.

  234. Paul says:

    My daughter is 14 months old, and was born with a hernia which required surgery to repair. It left her with 4 scars on her stomach, and it angers me that she may be embarrassed to wear a swimsuit. While I think instilling confidence into a child is import, I also think children can be mean… which can kill self esteem, especially for girls, where there is such a high status placed on looks. As a parent I feel that if you can make your child’s life easier you do it.

    We have not done any cosmetic surgery to minimize the scarring, but I would definitely not be opposed or compare it to child abuse.

  235. Maria says:

    Didn’t Princess Diana have Prince William go thru the same cosmetic surgery as a child to make his ears stick out less? How come no one made a issue out of it then?

  236. Jill Zumwalt says:

    We straighten our kids teeth and fix their acne, why wouldn’t we fix ears that are disproportianate? That old saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me,” is the biggest crock of ####. Yes, we should not judge people on looks, but it is human nature to judge those who are not within the normal limit of beautiful. Good for this mom for taking care of her little girl. Because of her actions, she has saved her years of torment, being bullied, and will allow her to gain a strong self-esteem with the absence of being picked on.

  237. FLMom says:

    I feel that this does send out the wrong message. Are your ears done growing at the age of 7? I was concerned about how curved my son’s pinky fingers were when he was born. I asked the pediatrician about it. The doctor said the only way to make them ‘normal’ was to break them and hope they heal correctly. We also hoped they would straighten out as he grew. So, I found the handprints on the windshield of the car and knew that they weren’t my son’s. He is ten years old, has no issues with his fingers, and has a pretty good knife-hand strike.

  238. Ann Rech says:

    My daughter was born with a prominent fold in one of her ears and one ear that stuck out and one that didn’t. She had surgery to have it corrected when she was four and I believe that it is the best decision that her father and I could have made. Those who say this little girl should have been given a chance to “live with and love” her ears, all I can say is you probably didn’t have this issue as a child. Children are unbelievably cruel to one another over every little thing. Why is this any different than having surgery to correct a lazy eye? If this child had been born with six fingers on one hand and her parents had that corrected, no one would say anything, but because it is her ears, people seem to think it is some sort of vanity thing and she should just have learned to live with it and that is utter garbage. We as parents strive to give our children the best possible life and if that means doing something simple like this (and this is a relatively simple procedure, it is done as outpatient and takes about 2 weeks to heal) to spare them YEARS of taunting and bullying, then go for it. I bet all those naysayers are the same ones that, when children get bullied in school, come up with the old adage “I got bullied, everyone does, and children need to learn how to deal with it, it makes them stronger”. Uh huh…bet you can’t remember who your best friend was in 3rd grade but I would hazard a guess you CAN remember who bullied you.

  239. Alicia Maldonado says:

    I remember being in the third grade and not getting any valentine cards from the other kids in class just because I had big ears that stuck out and was missing the folds in the upper part of the ear. Guess what? I still have my “original” ears and my son and daughter have them too. I would never have theirs pinned back. I learned to live with it, and now I proudly pull my hair back in a ponytail if I want to. I’ve recently started dating again after a painful divorce and I have never heard so many men tell my I am beautiful and downright stunning and they seem to find my ears “cute”. I’ll take those compliments any day.

  240. ASM826 says:

    Yes, I have similar ears and I wish this had been available to me as a child. I was a victim of bullying because of this and while I am an older adult and no longer would consider this surgery, I would do it for my grandchildren if it was needed.

  241. Professor Moriarty says:

    You people are way too sensitive. Get over your feelings…because they aren’t unique. Neither are bullies.

    Every single one of you has said something that has hurt someone else. You are a bully to someone in your life. You may not realize it…but you can be. The issue here is bullying. That is what is wrong. To have plastic surgery performed on a child as a “corrective” measure is tantamount to validating the bully. It is you saying, “the bully is right, there is something wrong with your ears.” There is nothing wrong with the person getting picked on! It is the bully who should be stopped. Period.

    This mother has faulty logic probably through inbreeding…which is also probably the source of the ear issue to begin with.

    Anyone who believes otherwise doesn’t have the self-esteem to function properly.

    If you didn’t pass on your flawed genes, then your children wouldn’t have physical defects and thus bullies wouldn’t make fun of them. That is better logic. If people who are open to performing plastic surgery on their children, simply did not have children…then this would not be an issue.

    I would rather you be sterilized than be given the liberty to mandate plastic surgery on a child.

  242. Denise P says:

    If her daughter was getting picked on by bullies and adjusting her ears helps stop or minimize bullying than I am all for it. This may also help her self confidence. If a parent has the money to help their child in this way great. We would fix a clef palate on a child so why not ears.

  243. Terry says:

    I have no problem with this. Like it or not, funky ears could interfere with her ability to be employed someday. Decrimation is live and well. Accept and deal.

  244. skico66 says:

    What!!! My sister had the same procedure when she was 7 years old. And she is now 43, I don’t see anyone makin a big stink. People who were never picked on or bullied, don’t understand.. don’t judge her mom, she made the right choice. Kids are cruel these days, we all have to watch what we say because children pick up almost everything we say.

  245. skico66 says:

    Its not really plastic surgery, it’s more like pulling the ear back.. Few cuts here and stiches and your done. With her age yes the probably had to put her under, but most would just be a local

  246. Debbie says:

    My son had his “Dumbo” ears corrected when he was 15. I asked his pediatrician as he was growing up when we should correct them. I was told to wait until he asked for the procedure. By the time he was 15 he was already traumatized by the teasing and kids flicking his ears in the hallways. But he was more than ready to endure the post op pain and the requirements of wearing a ski band on his ears for a month. I think the mother was right to correct this disfigurement before it became a real problem. And yes, Dumbo ears is a clinical term for ears that stick out from the skull beyond a certain measurement. And yes it is difficult to get a football helmet over them or a hat. Try that one on for size when you are a kid and everyone else looks “normal”.

  247. skico66 says:

    @ Kristen they don’t straighten out, my neice and nephew have the same ears as my sister does and they are 16 and 13 now. They are not as bad as my sisters were but you can tell when they don’t have their hair covering them. We don’t see a before and after picture, so you don’t really know how bad her child’s were. So stop bullying on the mom, she did what she thought was right. Her daughter probably came home crying everyday.

  248. den says:

    In 1971, my mother had surgery for my brother’s ears….His ears were very big and stuck out. You can imagin the names he was called. It was a proceedure where the doctor pulled the muscle cord so the ear fit tighter to the head. To this day, he is forever greatful for that decision and me too seeing that I felt horrible about kids teasing him and sadly to say embarressed at the same time!

    Thanks mom xoxo

  249. Cynthia says:

    One important point is being missed here:

    The term ‘plastic’, in the medical sense, and as used in the phrase ‘plastic surgery’ actually means ‘reparative’. It bears no relation to the material called ‘plastic’, as so many still believe.

    The more correct term to use when speaking of elective surgeries to improve or later a physical feature for purely cosmetic reasons is, unsuprisingly, ‘cosmetic surgery’.

    Whether this little girl’s surgery was plastic or cosmetic is, frankly, none of our business. We’re not her mother, we have no legal responsibility regarding her care. We also have zero experience with her particular situation. Yes, many of us have our own, similar experiences to draw from, but that does not make them /her/ situation. We cannot know what she or her mother went through, or what truly lead them to this decision.

    When you get a mole removed, get braces, have a tooth fixed with caps or other methods, have your hair permed, get contacts (as opposed to glasses)… these are all, technically, plastic procedures. I very deliberately use the term procedures, rather than surgeries; surgery, like plastic, actually has a specific meaning which is not applicable in all of these cases.

    I knew several children, growing up, who had their ears ‘pinned’, or who had other corrections made. It was between them and their parents, and they made the best decision for them, in their own lives, as did my parents and I when it came to procedures I had or did not have. I sometimes wonder what the various reactions might have been had someone printed up a brief article which did little to explain anything in depth about why or how I had something done. It’s usually right after I react to an article such as this exactly the way the writer intended me to react.

    The fact is, someone can report only the facts about something, yet lead the reader down a certain emotional path to get the reaction they desire simply with their choice of other words–the adjectives and emotions they choose to relay.

    Unless you have access to all of the facts in regard to something, and can relate directly with those involved, either verbally or in some other manner, you don’t know enough to make a judgement on them.

  250. Mom says:

    My daughter was born with ear deformities on one side. We had most of a large preauricular tag removed shortly after birth, and we taped the ear to improve the folds (the ear had no folds at all) for the first few months of her life. When she is older, probably prior to middle school, we will have the rest of the tag removed and the ear pinned, assuming she is on board with it. This isn’t like a nose job or breast implants. This is a congenital abnormality that can be fairly easily corrected. It would be cruel not to allow her that option, in my opinion. She also was born with torticollis (a twisted neck) and plagioecephaly (lopsided head), and we of course took steps to correct those issues as well, but I bet nobody here would take issue with that.

  251. Denise says:

    Kudos to that mom! I’m 43 and my ears have stuck out my whole life. Sure I can grow my hair over my ears, which is what I’ve done, but you’ll never see me with my hair up in a ponytail – ever. At least I got braces :)

  252. S. says:

    This goes on all the time. Why on earth they would fly across the country is unknown but plastic surgeons do this all the time. Most of them before a child enters kindergarten (right before the teasing would begin). I worked at an office that did this and I”m sure any ENT can tell you, this is common. Her parents did the right thing. It is a simple procedure.

  253. Terry Bringazi says:

    For those against this:
    So you don’t think we should get braces for our child’s crooked teeth, corrective shoes for those club-footed, or pigeion-toed, or leg braces, traction, etc. for hip deformities?

  254. Vickifri says:

    It is good to be able to fix these that children are being teased about.

  255. Tara says:

    I fully support Samantha’s mothers decision in the plastic surgery. I’m not necessarily supporting children having plastic surgery, but as a victim of bullying myself as early as 4th grade, I can completely understand the reasoning behind this decision. I too highly doubt Samantha would want her ears sticking out when she gets older, when she may have even planned her own plastic surgery, only after years of torment and embarrassment; wondering why and how her mother could let her go through this if it was preventable. Why not love her enough to give her a better outcome as she grows? Her flaw is something that she cannot ever repair, it’s not a matter of just losing some weight or something.

  256. Erika says:

    I’m sure her mom talked to her till she was blue in the face to say she was pretty. But for some reason bullies words are more powerful. Her mom did the right thing and she will not regret it in the future.

  257. Desiree says:

    There are occasions when allowing a child to undergo cosmetic surgery would be a good idea, such as:
    1- physical impairment (such as a cleft lip or palate)
    2- correct disfigurement such as from an accident.
    I am an adult, and recently I underwent a breast augmentation procedure. However, as an adult, I did this with informed consent, I had realistic expectations, I was aware of the healing and recovery process, and I was self-actualized enough to understand that having the procedure done wouldn’t change anything about me fundamentally, or give me instant popularity.
    Her hair could have been grown longer. My ex wears his hair long, for that very reason, and he looks great!

  258. Ghoo says:

    I think the mother did the right thing – my son has been teased a lot due to a squint and buck teeth – he has had numerous ops and braces and his confidence is better and he handles conflict due to teasing better – all parents (if they can) should try and assist their children with medical procedures if the child suffers needlessly

  259. JenniferJustice says:

    Having an ear that is folded out is a birth defect and I see no difference in fixing that than I do a cleft lip – which is a regularly done cosmetic surgery on infants and kids. There is nothing wrong with protecting your child from bullying and cruelty. She didn’t have the girl get implants or a nose job – that’s different. It is true that people who are bullies will find something about someone to pick at and this little girls surgery won’t change those kinds of people, but at least this little girl can go to school now without fear of her ears being their target. I’m sure if they make fun of her clothes or hair, it wont’ be as devestating. As far as pretty people getting picked on, it is just as bad if not worse for good-looking people. Pretty women are mean-girled at work, at the soccer field, at their kids’ school functions – you name it. Insecure women tend to wear it on their sleeves and resent better looking women – many times they don’t even know them – just hate what they see. And don’t even get me started on women who stay with cheaters…they think it’s the pretty women that fall for their cheater men – please! It’s the homely, insecure ones that fall for the cheaters – not the good-looking ones. Good looking people do tend to have more confidence in themselves and wouldn’t get involved with a guy they know has his own insecurities. Insecure kids tend to grow up to be insecure adults – only their techniques change.

  260. Areyouforreal says:

    There is NOTHING different with this then all of you that have put braces on your children or your parents but braces on you. I can assure you KAT that this is not child abuse. She had helped her child feel better about yourself. How many times have you seen a woman that has grown her hair out in order to cover her ears that protrude from her head??? ALOT! What if she wants to wear her hair short or would look better with her hair short but she refuses to because wants to hide her flaw that she never came to “embrace”???!!!???
    For those of you that say she is changing still, well I have news for you, her ears were already sticking out, they would not automatically fall back into place as she grows. Get a life all you holier then thou people on this post.
    This mom did a great thing for her daughter and as shocking as this story sounds it happens ALL THE TIME. The parents don’t just seek attention for it. That is her only mistake here is calling attention to it by going to the media.

  261. Areyouforreal says:

    Correction: She has helped her child feel better about herself.
    That’s for all you spelling/grammer nazis out there.

  262. Jr. says:

    If you were bullied its because you let yourself be bullied.then again maybe your ears did stick out enough to be laughed at ,sooo deal with it and get over it!

  263. Jr. says:

    If you were bullied its because you let yourself be bullied.then again maybe your ears did stick out enough to be laughed at ,sooo deal with it and get over it!

  264. 45 years ago says:

    This procedure is nothing new. 45 years ago my brothers and I had this done and we were minors. I think it was performed under “twilight” anesthesia as I remember being somewhat awak and my nose itched throughout the procedure. A week later the bandages were removed and I never looked back! I spent 4 years in the Marine Corps wearing my hair off of my collar and off of my ears and nobody ever guessed.

  265. Jamie says:

    I agree with the mother’s decision completely. It’s not like she had botox or liposuction. Although the child would probably have been ok with the ears herself, there is no doubt that it would have resulted in years of torture at the hands of other kids. She totally did the right thing in this situation.

  266. Totally Agree says:

    My brother had “plastic surgery” to pin his ears back 55 years ago! Kidswere calling him “Dumbo” in school, my father didn’t want him to be bullied!! I don’t think this is a big deal at all.

  267. Janis McDonald says:

    I think this is truly none of my business — or yours. What next — pass a law against it?
    Somewhere along the way we’ve lost our sensibilities — IT IS NOT HEALTHY FOR ALL OF US STRANGERS TO TRY TO MIND EVERYBODY ELSE’S BUSINESS.

  268. Linda says:

    I think the mom did what she did to keep her child happy and not bullied for not being perfect. It sure is a vain country to have a child with differences to be picked on, Mom took the battle in a way to help her daughter, not my choice but not my child being bullied either.

  269. Jason Huard says:

    Why is this news I’m pushing 30 and I can remeber this happening to numerous kids in my elementary school back in the 90’s. They didnt cut the kids face off our inject her with toxins. The procedure isnt even that serious. Go ahead and eat this up nevermind the issues that matter.

  270. Nicole P says:

    And where does it end?

    When she’s nine, if someone makes fun of her hair, will she get it colored?
    When she’s twelve, if someone makes fun of her nose, will she get it fixed?
    When she’s fifteen, if someone makes fun of her chest, will she get implants?

    All this mother has taught her daughter is that the bullies were right when they said there was something wrong with her. It’s one thing if the girl wanted plastic surgery because her ears were uncomfortable (I can’t wear the kind of headphones that slip over my ears due to the fold on the right one, so I can see how that can cause issues) but to say it will “combat bullies” is one of the saddest, most ignorant, most pathetic things I have ever read.

  271. Nicole P says:

    PS- to Bubbles, who said that no one would want his or her ear folded, maybe you should think before making statements like that. I LIKE my folded ear. It’s different. I had a boyfriend in college who thought it was cute. Sure, I can’t wear certain headphones or pierce the top of my right ear, but it doesn’t HURT to have a folded ear, no one has EVER made fun of it, and I would NOT get it fixed if I had the opportunity.

  272. Samara says:

    shes only 7.. ive seen lots of ppl who grow into their ears as they get older.. if she was still being bullied for having big ears wen shes a teenager than its not as big of a deal… but its not fair that even 7 year olds have to be so aware of how they look.. wat ever happened to just having fun..?

  273. Amanda says:

    I think mom did the right thing. Even at 7 years old, flaws in her appearance would have made her uncomfortable. Yes, it is great to learn to embrace differences, but when something is such a simple fix, why make her live with it?

  274. vejoan says:

    My cousin had the same operation very young. It really helped her self esteem. Ears are often made fun and not easily hidden by hair if they are protruding like hers were. It was a quick operation and left no visible scaring. She is glad her parents took care of that so she didn’t have to endure the teasing. But, ears are not a matter of sexual attraction of facial reconstruction. They don’t bring about the same kind of attention that breast augmentations or nose jobs will. I don’t see any problem here.

  275. Breanna says:

    Out of love, she did the right thing. No one wants to see their child hurt over something that can be fixed, but what’s next? The bullies will find something else to pick on her about… More surgery then?

  276. Rob Page says:

    Who are we to say what’s right or wrong? We’re all sticking our noses where they don’t belong.

  277. witty says:

    What about being bullied and whispered about for having it done? People look for things to judge others about.

  278. Donna says:

    Look, when any kid is bullied constantly, it really hurts a mom’s heart! It’s actually devastating to know that your precious little girl is going through such problems with bullies daily. You tell the schools about it and they never do a thing. My daughter is grown up now, but those hard times put her into a mental institution in 8th grade where we found out that a separate personality was made unknowlingly by this sweet girl to protect herself. She ended up with a split personality when bullied after a few years. So, maybe the mom just warded off years of mental anguish for her young daughter by getting her the surgery. You just do not know what the right thing is to do for your kids until you’re going through it yourself. You try everything until something works! But, in the meantime they’re growing up while you’re trying to figure out all the solutions and maybe it’ll be too late when you come up with something that works. I’m telling you that all “Bullys” actually ruin alot of young children’s lives unless you magically know how to cure it!

  279. Halli says:

    How bad was it; was something actually abnormal? Then yes, it would be fine, just like children have large birthmarks removed and things like that, which don’t cause any physical impairment, but are very unsightly and emotionally troublesome. If she didn’t have any abnormality and the bullies just picked some non-entity to tease her and make her feel uncomfortable about, then no, surgery wouldn’t have been warranted.

  280. Eva says:

    So, how is this different than braces? Or should we expect kids to “learn to love” crooked or buck teeth? Same difference.

    Jesus, some people are psycho. . .it’s not like she got her kid a boob job.

  281. adorable says:

    SAD & HORRIFYING…a child getting plastic surgery to combat bullies???…well the mother obviously has some deep rooted issues & may have been bullied herself as a child…As parents we tend to be over protective of our children because the world is a cruel place…such parental EXTREME cases as this although the surgery was minor versus major such as a nose job…the very idea is wrong on so many levels…people have painted such a superficial & decieving picture of beauty & self worth… one obvious issue is bullying which is a major concern in uprising generations… it’s just plain sad that some people are willing to even use such an escape goat as an option…

  282. Pwhite says:

    Self-righteous people need to back off. We are not talking about nose jobs and tummy tucks on children – we are talking about something the is very simple and “fixable” in today’s world. Would you deny your child braces, or acne medication – and tell them “this will make you stronger”?. As someone born with a facial abnormality – i’m so thankful my parents – without hesitation or public flogging – were able to get doctors to perform a series of corrective surgeries. Kids are horribly cruel. Teasing and bullying leaves deep scars that sometimes never heal. Let’s be clear – we aren’t talking about an over-the-top Toddles & Tiaras stage mom here – we are simply discussing a procedure that is incredibly common. Yes i agree to teaching a child their self-worth isn’t rooted in their physical beauty – but i’m all for doing things that help a child to be less self-conscious and more confident. Unfortunately – if the “mean girls” have tagged this child as a weak target – no amount of ear pinning is going to derail them. I speak from experience and know that only confidence repels bullies. But she’s 7 and can’t fake confidence yet . If this procedure gives her that needed boost to stand taller and exude the confidence make bullies quake in their own insecure boots – than it is worth it. I for one had already had two procedures by this age with 2 more coming prior to turning 14 – but today – the scar i have from that angel of a surgeon is a lot easier to deal with than the unseen scars i would still have at the hands of bullies.

  283. Michelle says:

    I think the mom made a good decision. If the child was totally healthy and had only one ear or half an ear she would have done the same thing….the was preventing her daughter to get really bullied in the future…….don’t forget it’s unfortunate but children are a lot more cruel these days….

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  285. Mary says:

    If she’s going back to the same school and the same bullies, why did her mom think she should endure this?????????????

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